The Direction of Intention

I want to share one bit of advice from St. Francis de Sales that is part of every Oblate's life. We call it the Direction of Intention. De Sales tells us: "They who wish to thrive and advance in the way of our Lord should, at the beginning of their actions, both exterior and interior, ask for his grace and offer to his divine Goodness all the good they will do." This advice from Francis is seen by many as the heart of his spirituality. He insists that its practice will help one "to thrive and advance" in sanctity." What is it exactly? It is simply a practice of prayer whereby we consciously direct to God whatever we are about to do. When done in this spirit, the action we are about to begin becomes sacred.

Most Oblates use the form: My God, I offer you this action. I give you all the good that I may do. I promise for love of you to accept the challenges I may face. Help me conduct myself in a manner pleasing to you.

I have one that's much easier to remember. When I was a little kid, my mother would line up her children as they left for school. She wanted to make sure we were ready to face the public and not embarrass her. In the early months of first grade, I remember standing in front of my mother for inspection. She would fruitlessly try to pastedown the several cowlicks I had on my big head of red hair, straighten the tie on my Catholic school uniform, hand me my lunch, place a kiss on my face and say, "Now say your Direction of Intention."

It took months before I asked my mother, "What is a Direction of Intention." Her response: "Just say, I do everything for you, God," and if you do that, God will be in everything you do. Little did she know that she opened me up to a world invaded by God in that simple instruction. I can remember walking to school in the spring, looking at the wildflowers in the fields, inspecting newborn pollywogs in dirty puddles, seeing the humongous trees green and open to new life, and thinking, "God is here in all of this." Throughout my youth, I prayed that simple phrase, "God, I do everything for you."

Sometimes I forgot, sometimes I said it and didn't think of it again, but there were times that, as a child, I became filled with wonder in the God of creation who walked with me to school.

The grace of this simple prayer is what, I believe, opened me to the deeper recesses of my heart and prepared a fertile ground for my vocation. It continues to be a tremendous grace in my life, fulfilling what St. Francis predicted, with still more to come. Although, I have graduated to the more complicated Oblate form of the prayer.

It's simple - say it in the morning, at the beginning of every act, as you begin a conversation, wash the dishes, cook a meal, or rest in times of quiet. "I do everything for you, God." St. Francis would say to you as you do this, "Look at God, and he will look at you."

Fr. Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

“I’m Ready!” - Fr. Dave Hudgins

On January 2, our neighbor, Fr. Dave Hudgins, pastor of Saint Joseph Shrine, Brooklyn, MI marked his 53rd birthday. His brother Jim, a priest and pastor in Washington, D.C. had flown into Detroit Metro that evening to spend a quiet week in the Irish Hills of Michigan. Because of the bad weather and icy conditions, Jim opted to stay in an airport motel rather than drive to Brooklynn. The next morning on January 3rd, while on his way to pick up his brother, Dave apparently hit some black ice on US 127. His truck went into the median and rolled twice, an accident that took Dave’s life right at the scene. 

This is a staggering shock and a huge loss for his parish, his family, for close friends, and those moderately close friends like me. It’s a huge loss for the Diocese of Lansing as is the loss of any active priest, but in a special way because Dave was a canon lawyer, the judicial vicar of the diocese, a key part of the marriage tribunal. 

I was able to attend a vigil service for Dave at the Shrine the very evening of his death. I’m deeply moved by the turnout, the participation, the emotion, love, and respect of those gathered who held him in such high esteem. Here are a few of the vignettes folks shared about him….

  • A woman whose husband passed away recounted how Dave spent his day off with another parishioner cutting wood for her. Someone made reference to how deeply he was involved in the renovation and updating of the old church. She is still wondering how he managed to raise the money...His work in the marriage tribunal was a full-time job. When he took on the role of pastor of the Shrine, aware that he’d be able to do little more than cover weekend Masses, he confided his concern about it to a parishioner: “I don’t know if I’ll be able to love them enough.” The testimony of that deeply moving vigil service made it clear that whether or not he’d been able to love them enough, they certainly love him deeply.

  • A few folks remarked on Dave’s deep spirit of humility. He was a social worker by profession before beginning his studies for the priesthood. One person pointed out the amazing way he saw everyone as so special and how this was manifest in the simple joy he radiated so faithfully. Someone else was marveling at his intelligence and pointed out that Dave could quote Homer, Plato, and Aristotle in the same homily... And then they made the clarification that ”Homer” was Homer Simpson, not the epic poet of Ancient Greece!

  • Most impacting of all was the account of a couple speaking to Dave at the back of church after Mass one Sunday. One of them was filled with anxiety, certain that with all the things happening in the world, we must certainly be in the End Times. Dave was a big man, tall and husky. He was still fully vested during this exchange. He stepped back, spread his long arms very wide, and proclaimed for everyone nearby to hear: “I’m ready!”

What a consolation and reassurance… What a statement of faith and confidence... What an invitation to every one of us. 

Are you ready? 

Most of us are inclined to be more than busy, always trying to manage well our responsibilities, commitments, great ideas, and everything else on our plate. Most of us take the gift of each day for granted, ready and eager for more and more and more. Dave’s sudden passing reminds us how fragile our lives are, how special each day is and how sacred each person is. And now what? 

As we pray for Dave and pray for our neighbors at St. Joseph’s Shrine, it’s important that we commit ourselves to take action as well, be ready to step forward, and do what we can to help out that parish… and one another. I can’t think of a better combination than prayer and action to enable to be able to say with Fr. Dave Hudgins, “I’m ready!”

Blessings,

Fr. Thomas Helfrich, OSFS

Pastor

St. Rita’s Church, Clarklake, MI

Remembering Our Founder

In less than a week (on February 2nd), on the day the Church celebrates the Presentation of Jesus in the Temple, we Oblates of St. Francis de Sales throughout the world -priests, brothers, and sisters- will recall the death of our holy Founder, Blessed Louis Brisson.

Even more than a century after his death, the sad and tragic circumstances surrounding his death are painful to recall.  The laws of an anti-clerical France had forced most religious to leave the country, surrendering all their ministries, apostolates, and homes to the State.  Because of his advanced age and frail health, Father Brisson was unable to leave with his fellow Oblates.  Thus, with only one Oblate brother to care for him, he retired to his small childhood home in the village of Plancy, France.  The home was next door to the parish Church in which he, an only child, had been baptized many years before.

One day, upon returning from a short carriage ride, he noticed that the hostile civil government had posted a “For Sale” sign on his home.  From that day on, he never left the house again. 

From time to time a few Oblates and Mother Aviat (now St. Leonie Aviat) would secretly return to France to spend some precious time with the saintly priest, founder, and friend.  As his death neared, an Oblate asked Father Brisson for a final word to share with the members of his two religious foundations, a word that would comfort them when was no longer with them and would serve as his spiritual legacy to them.  His reply was simple but profound: “Tell them I love them with all my heart.”  He did not need to say more, for these few words said it all.

Early on the feast of the Presentation in the year of 1908, while the Church bells were calling people to Mass, Father Louis Brisson went home to God. On the day when Jesus was brought to the Temple, the earthly home of God, Louis Brisson entered the heavenly Temple of that same God.

During the long months of this stubborn and deadly pandemic, I kept hearing of Covid-19 victims dying all alone, with no loved ones permitted to be with them for fear of contagion.  I believe that in Blessed Louis Brisson those victims have a saintly patron, someone who can relate to being quite alone at that most solemn of life’s moments.  I hope he was there to greet every one of them when they made their way to God!

Blessed Louis Brisson, pray for us!


Rev. Lewis S. Fiorelli, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

An Oblate Perspective on Vocations

The Feast of St. Francis de Sales (January 24) invites Oblates to reflect on our vocation especially since we celebrate World Day of Consecrated Life the following week.  Simply put, we all, Oblate and layperson, have a vocation.  We all discern how and where the Lord is calling us in life. 

For the Christian, it is a two-step process.  First, is the Lord calling me to the single life, married life, or to the priesthood or religious life as a priest, brother, or sister in a particular religious order (consecrated life)?  The second step is what am I called to do in that state in life?  Am I called to be a teacher, laborer, health care provider, minister in the church, teacher, butcher, field worker, service care provider, or a “stay-at-home dad or mom?”

St. Francis de Sales was unequivocal in his belief that we must be faithful to our state in life for it is there that the Lord wants us to achieve our holiness and happiness.  This means being attentive to the daily tasks of our vocation.  Yes, we could spend an entire day praying in front of the Blessed Sacrament, but if this means neglecting our spouse, children, or others who depend on us, Francis would not deem this as an inspiration from our Lord but rather an abdication of our duties and responsibilities.  Sometimes, I look at other places that are hurting and in great need such as poor foreign countries, where I could make an impact, but this is not where the Lord is calling me.  At times, the desire to be elsewhere may be more of escape from not wanting to deal with the situation at hand.  This is a time for rededication and renewal to the present state in life.

The call to holiness centers on doing the will of God for the world today.  It is willing the one thing or the same thing all the time:  God’s will.  This demands daily discernment on how that is to be achieved.  Sometimes the Lord may be asking us to repair a relationship, to be more patient with someone, to spend more time in prayer, to take better care of ourselves, or to find more time for relaxation.  There are times when this will come at the request of another.  For those in religious life, we believe that the Lord often speaks to us through our religious superiors who may ask us to move to a different ministry or position.

In Salesian Spirituality, we live “between the two wills of God.”  There is the signified will of God known by our state in life.  This entails being faithful to our vows, our Rule of Life, and the charism and/or spirituality of our founders.  Implicit in this is fidelity to our ministry as teachers, chaplains, pastors, etc.  The second will, “the will of God’s good pleasure,” is something that “interrupts” the normal planned course of the day calling us to be present to the moment. 

Oblates plan their day each morning as it is part of our spirituality.  We have a sense of what activities or appointments are scheduled and what virtues we need to be faithful in them.  The “will of God’s good pleasure” are those unforeseen and unplanned events to which God is calling us to be attentive.  This can run the gamut from a person in need at the door, to a call from the hospital, to an unpleasant phone call, to the realization that pipes have broken, or all the above in one day.  These can be viewed as “visits,” in a sense, from God and/or realizations that we are not in control and need to surrender to God’s “good pleasure.”  It can also be a positive and pleasant experience, like an unexpected visit from a friend.

A good spiritual guide or director with whom we meet monthly can help us see where we are in our vocation, where the hand of God is present in our life.  This takes time and commitment.  Yet, it is so crucial.  Francis de Sales is often quoted as having said “many say a good spiritual director is one in a thousand, but I say it is more like one in ten thousand.”  The spiritual direction dynamic helps one to conduct proper self-maintenance.  We can’t always be happy, but we can always try to be healthy.  Spiritual direction assists with this.

I am finding that aging has a challenging and exciting impact on our vocation.  With the passing of years and experience, we often find ourselves in a much different space.  There is no need to build our resumes, to prove ourselves.  We are comfortable in our relationship with God and others. Thus, we can concentrate more easily on what God is asking of us, how we can let go more freely and totally and stay open to God’s love intervening in new and exciting ways. 

The vocation is a constant and consistent “listening” to God calling to us.  May we always follow Eli’s advice to Samuel and when we hear God calling, may we respond “Speak, Lord, your servant is listening.”

 

Fr. John J. Fisher, OSFS

Rector

Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception

Camden, NJ

“Francis & Me” Reflections

For four centuries, people from all walks of life have been influenced by the teachings of Saint Francis de Sales. On this page, you'll find reflections from those who have been influenced by our patron saint.

Click on the images below to read reflections!

Lindagale Dube: Parishioner at St. John Neumann Parish, Reston, VA; Former librarian at Bishop Ireton High School, Alexandria, VA; Member of Live Jesus! Communities, VA

Miranda Clark-Binder

Miranda Clark-Binder: Art & Art History Educator at Our Mother of Consolation Parish School, Philadelphia, PA

Kathy Wickham: Parishioner of Holy Family Parish, Adrian., MI


Dr. Olga Rasmussen

Dr. Olga Rasmussen: Parishioner of St. John Neumann Catholic Community in Reston, VA

Marge Van Lierde

Marge Van Lierde: Parishioner of Our Lady of Good Counsel in Vienna, VA

Maureen A. Furletti: Graduate Student, Loyola Institute for Ministry, Loyola University New Orleans; Parishioner, Our Mother of Consolation Church, Philadelphia, PA


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Claire Burchell: Parishioner of St. John Neumann Catholic Community, Reston, VA

Tom Vresics: Founder of Salesian Lay Association of Men (S.L.A.M.)

Margaret Emerson: Parishioner and Assistant Preschool Teacher at St. John Neumann Catholic Community, Reston, VA


Elisabeth Showalter

Elisabeth Showalter: Mathematics Teacher at Georgetown Visitation Preparatory School, Washington, DC

CJ Capen

CJ Capen: Director of Music at St. John Neumann Parish in Reston, VA

Dr. Carol Raphael

Dr. Carol Raphael: Parishioner of Saint John Neumann in Reston, VA


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Loyes Spayd: Daughter of St. Francis de Sales, Retired Religious Educator, Pastoral Minister, and parishioner of Saint John Neumann in Reston, VA

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Michael Swiger: parishioner at St. John Neumann Parish, Reston, VA

Margaret E. Ayala

Margaret E. Ayala: MFA, Assistant Professor and Director of First Year Writing at DeSales University


Maureen Furletti: Graduate Student, Institute for Ministry, Loyola University New Orleans

Martin Brett, Ph.D.: Associate Professor & Chair, Sport Management, at DeSales University

Paul Cillo

Paul Cillo: Pastoral Associate for Youth Ministry at Our Mother of Consolation


Nick Grant: Postulant in Formation. Salesianum School Class of 2018

Lisa Lickona, STL: Assistant Professor of Systematic Theology at Saint Bernard’s School of Theology and Ministry in Rochester, New York

Pam Burson: Administrative Aide for the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales, Toledo-Detroit Province


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Patrick Agnew: parishioner at St. Cecilia, Fort Myers, FL

Maureen Dwyer

Mrs. Maureen Dwyer: Theology Teacher/Department Chairperson at Fr. Judge High School

Marshal Bell: St. Francis de Sales High School, Class of 2022


Karri Yeager: Parishioner at Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception - Camden, NJ

Sidonie Becton: ‘07, Tri-Chair, Alumnae Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion Committee at Georgetown Visitation Preparatory School

St. Vincent de Paul


Ellen Hildenbrand

Ellen Hildenbrand: Religion Department Chair, Salesianum School

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Ruth Lahnston: College Counselor

Duncan Borland: St. Francis de Sales High School, Class of 2022


Paula M. Riley, M.S.

Paula M. Riley: Mother

Richard Leonard: Teacher at Our Mother of Consolation Parish School, Philadelphia, PA

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Patrick Lonergan: Father Judge High School, Class of 2022


Maureen Furletti

Rich DeLeo: A member of DeSales Network

Patricia McGlinn: Former Director of Managed Care Services for the Wilmington-Philadelphia Province of the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales


The Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet, Albany Province

Kyle O'Neal: Salesianum School Class of 2022

Ben Burson

Ben Burson: St. Francis de Sales High School Class of 2022


Pope Pius XI Declares St. Francis de Sales the “Patron Saint of Writers”

Anthony Vu

Anthony Vu: Father Judge High School Class of 2022

Pope Benedict XVI

Pope Benedict XVI: "God is the God of the human heart."


Daniel M. Kerns, Jr.

Daniel M. Kerns, Jr.: Leadership in the Salesian Tradition

Ryan Corey,

Ryan Corey: Salesianum School Class of 2022

Pope John XXIII

Pope John XXIII (1881-1963) was proud to tell people that St. Francis de Sales was one of his favorite saints..

Feast Day & Jubilee Celebrations Across the Provinces!


Oblates of St. Francis De Sales India Celebrate!


Jubilee Explanation from the Superior General

2022 DOUBLE SALESIAN JUBILEE

We Oblates of St. Francis de Sales are overjoyed to announce our 2022 Double Salesian Jubilee: the 400th anniversary of the death of St. Francis de Sales (1622) and the 450th anniversary of the birth of St. Jane de Chantal (1572). Our jubilee year will run from 23 January 2022 through 24 January 2023.

The 20th General Chapter, which took place in Annecy in July 2018, approved an exhortation to the congregation about the celebration. This exhortation recommends:

That our whole Oblate community prepares and celebrates this double jubilee as a special opportunity to know more deeply and to incarnate the teachings of both St. Francis de Sales as our principal patron and St. Jane Frances de Chantal as our secondary patron. […] The goal of the celebration of the double jubilee is a renewal of our Salesian spiritual life and to benefit of this opportunity to make both saints more familiar to the world, in the fulfillment of one of the first missions of the congregation: “living and spreading Salesian doctrine” (Constitution 11). 

Therefore, the 2022 Double Salesian Jubilee may be seen as having three practical pillars: (1) to increase knowledge and love of St. Francis de Sales and St. Jane Frances de Chantal; (2) to encourage imploring their intercession; and (3) to imitate their virtues and devotion. Every Oblate unit, parish, institution, school, program, and local community is asked to plan to observe the Jubilee Year in its own way.

Currently, there are approximately 450 Oblates of St. Francis de Sales serving the needs of church and society in 18 countries, including the United States, Mexico, Ecuador, Brazil, Uruguay, and Haiti in the Americas; France, Austria, Germany, Switzerland, Italy, Monaco, and the Netherlands in Europe; Benin, Côte d’Ivoire, Namibia, and South Africa on the African continent; and India in South Asia.

This means our jubilee year will be marked by what St. Francis de Sales called “unidiversity.” Francis promoted holding the two values of unity and diversity in simultaneous creative tension, not in opposition to each other but in their necessary and fruitful complementarity. Our unity blesses our diversity with singular purpose; our diversity gives creative expression to our unity. The same holds true as we explore different ways to celebrate this jubilee year together.

Preparing and launching these observances will prioritize the collaboration and participation of our lay colleagues in the various ministries in which we are engaged. Programs will have an outward focus and take into account the spiritual needs and hungers of the people of God and how the spiritual wisdom of Saints Francis and Jane speak to these needs and hungers. As our Founder, Blessed Louis Brisson, told the first Oblates—"We are not religious for ourselves, but for the Church, in order to manifest even more the action of the Savior, His light, and His graces” (Chapter of 13 December 1892).

I wish to extend my profound gratitude to the International Commission for Salesian Studies (ICSS) which took the lead in providing direction for the celebration of the Double Salesian Jubilee. They are Oblate Fathers Joseph Chorpenning, Herbert Winklehner, and Jean-Luc Leroux.

During this jubilee year, we also await a special contribution from Pope Francis. Last year, the Rector Major of the Salesians of Don Bosco, the Superior General of the Missionaries of St. Francis de Sales, and I wrote a joint letter to Pope Francis, on behalf of all Salesian institutes of consecrated life and societies of apostolic life, petitioning an Apostolic Letter to mark the event. The Vatican Secretariat of State replied that His Holiness intends to welcome our request positively and imparts his Apostolic Blessing to all those who are inspired by St. Francis de Sales, encouraging them to continue their evangelical witness with missionary ardor and zeal for souls.

Clearly, we have much to celebrate!

Fr. Barry R. Strong, OSFS

Superior General

The Oblates of St. Francis de Sales

The Oblates trace their roots to "the dream" of St. Francis de Sales. It was a dream born of a conviction - that all people, of every social stratum, of every position, of every job, talent, or condition were called to holiness. St. Francis de Sales pursued this through his writings, preaching, and many teachings. He wanted to found an order that would be dedicated to carrying on this work after his death, but he died without seeing this fulfilled. A chief focus of St. Francis de Sales was the gentleness and humanity of Jesus. The gentleman saint took this from his favorite Gospel quote: “Learn from me, for I am gentle and humble of heart” (MT 11:29).

Working to “Live Jesus,” DeSales sought for himself and implored others to integrate the very person and personality of the Savior into the character of the disciple. Consequently, “Live Jesus” grew to become a popular maxim for DeSales. One of the foremost Christian humanists of his day, St. Francis de Sales developed a fascinating and engaging perspective of the human person. He said, “The person is the perfection of the universe, the mind is the perfection of the person, love is the perfection of the mind and charity is the perfection of love.” Mother Mary Chappuis, a nun from the Order of the Visitation founded by St. Francis de Sales and St. Jane de Chantal, prevailed upon Father Louis Brisson to form a congregation of men committed to living and transmitting this ideal of Salesian humanism.

In 1876 a small band of six men, led by Father Brisson, professed their first vows as Oblates of St. Francis de Sales and began to live the religious life in Troyes, France. Despite humble beginnings, the order experienced a rapid growth. Oblate communities now exist in India, Austria, France, Germany, Italy, the Netherlands, South America, South Africa, Namibia, Switzerland, and the United States. The first foundation in the United States was Salesianum School, a high school for boys in Wilmington, Del., in 1903.

Although the first undertakings of the Oblates in the United States was the Christian education of youth, members devote themselves to many other varied apostolates to serve people’s needs. In the United States, the Oblates have worked in every apostolate where a need has been manifested. They have opened schools, staffed parishes, established retreat houses, and built summer camps. They have also witnessed their Christian faith by living and working in inner-city neighborhoods, serving as chaplains in hospitals, prisons, on college campuses, and as military chaplains.

 “It is not easy to describe the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales. It has been our desire from the beginning, I believe, to be a community of men who live in the world imitating Christ. Individually it is impossible to model Christ in all his perfection, but together as a religious family in many parts of the world and through various ministries we imitate Christ in his teaching, praying, and proclaiming the Good News to all. We have done some truly wonderful things for and with Him; we are making the world a better place. I am blessed to be part of this community.”

Fr. Ed Ogden, OSFS

St. Margaret of Scotland

Newark, DE

The Covid Challenge!

We are in the liturgical season named Ordinary Time. This time is the part of the liturgical year, which falls outside the two great seasons of Christmastide and Eastertide, or their respective preparatory seasons of Advent and Lent. This week we are in the Second Week of Ordinary Time. 

I’ve got to believe that very few people would think of this week, or this time as ordinary. With Covid ramping up, inflation at new highs, shortages in stores, and a whole host of challenging events and situations before us, it is far from ordinary. 

St. Francis de Sales has a helpful way of facing the challenges of the unordinary. He proposes that there are two expressions of God’s Will. One expression is the revealed will of God. That is, those things that we know are God’s Will as revealed in scripture and tradition. We see these expressed in the ten commandments, the challenges in the Gospels, or the corporal and spiritual works of mercy. Francis names the second expression of God’s Will as the Will of God’s Good Pleasure. These are the things that are not expected. Sometimes these events or situations are welcome, a surprise party, an unexpected visit with a friend, and at other times, they are unwelcome, a Covid diagnosis, a job loss, etc. 

I believe many of us would say we are living in the Will of God’s Good Pleasure in many ways right now. What do we do with this expression of God’s Will? How do we respond? Francis gives the advice: “Live one day at a time, leaving the rest in God's care…Go along with confidence in divine Providence, worrying only about the present day and leaving your heart in the Lord's care!” The past and the future are to be surrendered in confidence into the hands of the Lord, who will forgive our past failings and be our sure hope in the future. That leaves the present moment in which we are called to be actively united to God's Will for us. 

De Sales would have us actively direct our intention to whatever God wants of us in the moment at hand. Francis has little time for people who live in “what might have been” or in “what might be.” The present moment provides the only real possibility for encounter with the living God through an active embrace of His Will for us. Seize it! And ask God’s help to live each moment in a manner pleasing to Him.

Fr. Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Greatness is Achieved One Small Act after Another!

At some point in our lifetime , we arrive at a liberating juncture.  As believers, we recognize that we are here on earth to serve God’s greater purpose, as God is at the center of our lives.  

This purpose commits us to live life in commonality, rather than self-centeredness, and to move with the idea of togetherness, rather than aggressive individualism.  And to practice unconditional love, rather than embrace the coolness of indifference.

Recognizing that our life is not ours alone at that instant, Jesus Christ is born again in us.  He literally begins using our humanity to further his plan.  This is the moment when God’s kingdom begins flourishing vigorously because we are using our God given gifts for the exact purpose they are given.  

St. Francis de Sales maintains it is the moment we take the small ordinary acts, which we encounter frequently, and realize these are wonderful opportunities to turn them into ways to praise God.  A perfect example is when Jesus meets the Samaritan woman at the well. 

As she was drawing water for her household, Jesus engaged her with civility and respect.  His remarks, slowly but steadily, filled her heart with warmth and affection.  She soon began engaging Jesus without fear.  And it was not long before she felt compelled to proclaim his gentle manner throughout her neighborhood.  Thus, by example, Jesus’ initial dialogue showed how love often begins his healing. 

On another occasion, Jesus’ preaching piqued the interest of Zaccheus, a despised tax collector.  He felt a strong need to search out Jesus and see if what he was hearing was true.  Sensing a life-changing moment occurring in Zaccheus’ heart when their eyes locked, Jesus reached out and invited himself to dinner.

Overwhelmed with Jesus’ compassion and love, Zaccheus seized hope and changed his life’s direction.  Jesus’ tenderness softened Zaccheus, causing him to realize that he could be better than his present life showed.  

And again, when Jesus was teaching in a crowded home loving friends lowered their paralytic friend through the roof and before Jesus.  Jesus rewarded this unique gesture with a dramatic cure.  Understanding his friends’ loving kindness, Jesus then merged his deep love and the miracle happened.  Responding tenderly, Jesus said, “Take up your pallet and walk.”  The paralytic did and the group walked home together.  Love overpowers darkness in any form.

There is a saying that when we do good, we really don’t know how much good we are actually doing.  Since this measurement is impossible to grasp, it is better to accomplish all the good we can with each present moment before us.

Dorothy Day wrote: What we do is very little.  But it is like the little boy with a few loaves and fishes. Christ took that little and increased it…Our work is to sow.  Another will be reaping the harvest.

If accomplishing good is our aim each new day, God will join us and become a hidden force within each action.  Just as in the miracles mentioned above, our miracles can also change the world, one good act at a time.  Of course, we won’t realize this unless we seek these small opportunities and by our actions turn them into great acts of praise to God.

No act of goodness – even the smallest – ever fades away, they always matter. Anonymous

Rev. Richard DeLillio, OSFS

Nativity Prep Development Office

Wilmington, Delaware

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Jubilee Celebrations!

How Oblate & Salesian Communities are celebrating the Jubilee Year!


Holy Infant Catholic Church Salesian Little Virtues: Monthly reflection in the parish newsletter. Sign up here!

  1. Gentleness

Members prayed a novena together at weekend Masses. The novena culminated on the Feast Day Weekend of January 22/23 as they celebrated the Solemnity of St. Francis de Sales.

Holy Infant hosted Francis and Our Faith talk focused on the legacy of St. Francis de Sales and the little virtues of Salesian spirituality.

A discussion group going on now on the introduction to the Devout Life. Details on here.


The St. John Neumann Catholic Community will be hosting a 40 Hours Devotion from January 23 to January 25 with many prayer opportunities on the Feast Day of Saint Francis de Sales.

The entirety of the devotion was be live-streamed.


Our Mother of Consolation, Philadelphia, PA. hosted their Annual Appeal and featured Fr. Jack Kolodziej, OSFS, as guest homilist all weekend. OMC will be featuring Salesian materials in print and online throughout this special year.


  • At Holy Redeemer by the Sea (OBX) announcements will be made throughout the year and articles in weekly bulletin throughout the jubilee citing and explaining significant events in the lives of DeSales, DeChantal, and other Salesian Saints.

  • A Custom banner announcing the Jubilee Year is prominently displayed at main entrances.

  • Commissioning of a statue "shrine" display of St. Francis DeSales and St. Jane DeChantal in 3ft carved, colored linden wood pointing to a V+J sunburst that will be placed between them. Both statues will be pointing to the V+J sunburst.

  • The parish is continuing display of Salesian pamphlets, booklets, holy cards, and other various publications in the vestibule of each worship space.

Father Judge High School, Philadelphia PA, will welcome the Archbishop of Philadelphia, Nelson Perez, at a special Mass celebrating St. Francis de Sales and the Oblate presence in the Archdiocese on January 31st.

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Georgetown Visitation

All on campus are invited to stop by our Front Reception Desk to share their favorite Salesian quote and get a honey candy from Mrs. Jermaine Dawson!

Feast Day Mass was held with Campus Minister and Oblate, Fr. Patrick Kifolo, OSFS, as celebrant.

At the Mass, two members of our faculty and staff were recognized with the inaugural Dan Kerns Salesian Leadership Award, in honor of our former Head of School (for 30 years). Dan Kerns offered remarks; Mr. Kenny Purcell and Mrs. Laurie Quirk were recognized.

Lily Nicholson '22, read a reflection on Salesian virtue of HUMILITY in honor of our patron.

A Spirit of Christmas Throughout the Year

Last weekend, the Church observed the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord, the liturgical conclusion of the Christmas season. Although many of us put Christmas decorations away long ago, the trees and manger scenes only recently came down in our parishes. 

It’s an unusual feast to wrap up Christmas, in that the baptism of Jesus didn’t take place in his infancy, but rather as an adult. Other than a few details in Luke’s Gospel, we know little about his childhood and young adulthood, other than the general observation that he “grew in grace and wisdom” during these years (Luke 2:52). And yet, when he stepped forward to be baptized in the Jordan River, the scriptures tell us that a voice came down from heaven as Jesus prayed, saying: “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased” (Luke 3:22).

Christmas teaches us more than the story of Christ’s birth; it reveals that God looked upon us and saw the goodness in us that he created, that we are worthy of sharing in his divine nature despite all the problems and ugliness and conflict in the world. Jesus was born at a time and place even more challenging and difficult than our own. And yet God became one of us, as if his divine voice were saying to all humanity that we, too, are beloved.

At the Jordan River, when Jesus rose from the waters and heard the voice from above, he had yet to heal lepers or cure the sick or give sight to the blind. He had yet to forgive sins or drive out demons or walk on water. He had yet to raise the dead, or give his own life on the cross. All he did at that moment was pray. 

Perhaps the message many of us need to hear is that we don’t need to work miracles, or be superhuman, or have it all figured out to be loved by God. His love is a gift, freely given, because we are beloved. And there’s nothing we can do to make God love us any more - or any less - than he does already. May that gift of grace carry us through this New Year.

Rev. J. Christian Beretta, OSFS

Principal, Salesianum School

Wilmington, Delaware

It's Still Christmas in the East!

The Christmas season ended this past Sunday on the feast of the Baptism of the Lord.  Or did it?  Every January there seems to be discussion among Christians on social media as to when the Christmas season officially ends.  For Christians who follow the Western tradition, the season has just concluded.   But for most Eastern Orthodox and Ukrainian Catholic Churches, Christmas has just begun. 

Christians in the Eastern Church follow the Julian calendar and celebrate Christmas on the traditional date of January 7.  Epiphany is celebrated on January 19.  For those following these original dates, the season is in full swing.  Prayers, music, food, and fun are still going strong as we enter the middle of January.

For Eastern Rite Catholics, Christmas has more of a family and home emphasis.  The first meal of the Christmas season is called “Holy Supper” - the evening meal before Christmas Day and before going to the Church.  As the family gathers around the table they pass around a piece of bread (called prosphara).  This had been blessed at the church the week before and is similar to the communion bread used in the Eastern Church.  As bread is broken and passed around, each person says “Christ is Born - Glorify Him!”  

After the Holy Supper people go to Church to celebrate the announcement of Christ’s Birth. This is done at the evening Compline service. The highlight of this service is when the priest, holding a lighted candle, sings: “God is With Us! Understand, O nations and submit yourselves, for God is with us!” and the people respond singing the same thing.  The Gospel of the Nativity is then proclaimed.   The next day (January 7) the Divine Liturgy is celebrated, and the Gospel of the Wise Men is read. The Eastern church does not use this Gospel on the Epiphany.   In the Eastern tradition, Epiphany is really about the manifestation of Christ at his Baptism.  The Epiphany (or Theophany) is a major feast of the Church and Eastern culture.

This dish is called Kutya. It is present at all dinners and shared as good luck for the year!

The difference between the Eastern and Western celebrations of Christmas is that the Roman Rite emphasizes the humanity of the Holy Child. The Eastern Rite sees Christmas as the Incarnation of the Light and its triumph over darkness, death, and sin (see John 1:5). Hence, the classic icon of the Nativity is the Holy Child lying in a dark cave, the symbol of death (darkness) being overcome by Light. 

Between the celebration of Christmas and Epiphany in Ukraine is a special day called “Malanka.”  This holiday is celebrated on January 13.  It used to mark the beginning of the new year before the calendar was changed from Julian to Gregorian.

All of these Christmas traditions are ways for Ukrainians and Eastern-rite Christians around the world to celebrate and connect with their ancestors, their history, and their ancient roots.  No matter what date you celebrate, may the spirit of Jesus, the Light in the darkness, remain with you and your loved ones throughout the new year. 

This reflection was composed with the assistance of Father Bill Gore, OSFS.  Fr. Gore has ministered in Ukraine and among Eastern Europeans in the U.S. (most recently at St. Nicholas Ukrainian Catholic Church in Wilmington, DE).  Today, Fr. Gore is a senior priest at St. Edmond’s Parish in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware. 

Fr. William Gore, OSFS

Senior Priest

St. Edmond’s Parish, Rehoboth Beach, DE

January: A Month of Salesian Saints

During the month of January, the Church celebrates three Salesian saints: St. Leonie Aviat (January 10), St. Francis de Sales (January 24), and St. John Bosco (January 31).

Of the three, St. Leonie Aviat is the least known. But she deserves to be better known, which is why she is the subject of this brief reflection.

The young Leonie attended the small Visitation school of Troyes, France. There, she came to know and admire its saintly Superior, Venerable Mother Mary de Sales Chappuis, whom we Oblates refer to as “the Good Mother.” The chaplain of the Monastery and School was Father (now Blessed) Louis Brisson who soon became Leonie’s spiritual guide.

Leonie and Louis went on to found a new religious Congregation, the Oblate Sisters of St. Francis de Sales. Leonie and the first Oblate Sisters staffed four homes for young working girls of Troyes. The Sisters provided the vulnerable young workers with caring, loving, and safe “homes away from home,” all the while strengthening them in their faith and forming them into what they would later become as devoted wives, Christian mothers, and generous contributors to their local communities. The Oblate Sisters would go out from their beginnings in France to many parts of the world, caring for youth in the gentle, joyful, and loving spirit of St. Francis de Sales.

St. Leonie Aviat before entering the Oblate Sisters of St. Francis de Sales

For his creative efforts at bringing Christ to the new working classes of the early Industrial Revolution, Blessed Louis Brisson is recognized as a forerunner of the 19th century Church’s growing social awareness.

Women’s contribution to that movement deserves greater attention. And when it receives that attention, St. Leonie Aviat will be numbered among its first leaders!

The following words are taken from the opening prayer for the Mass of St. Leonie Aviat:

“God of all goodness, you put into the heart of Saint Leonie Aviat an ardent desire to live humbly like Jesus, your Son. You taught her to surrender her will to yours and to have a constant charity toward all. Inspired by her example, may we too forget ourselves entirely so that we may serve you better and work for the happiness of others.”

St. Leonie Aviat, pray for us!

Rev. Lewis S. Fiorelli, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

A Merry 'Little Christmas'

When I was growing up, I would watch some of our neighbors put their Christmas trees on the curb every December 26. By New Year’s Day, more homes would dispose of their trees and the rest of their holiday decorations were soon taken down. When I would ask my mother when our family was going to follow suit, she always said that we kept our tree and decorations up until “Little Christmas.” As a kid, I was curious about this phrase. My mother explained that “Little Christmas” was another name for the twelfth day of Christmas, the traditional date for the feast of the Epiphany.

In many parts of the Catholic world, the feast of the Epiphany has already been celebrated. In the modern Catholic calendar, the feast can be transferred to the second Sunday after Christmas. This year Catholics in the United States celebrated the feast on January 2. Other parts of the world, however, continue to celebrate the Incarnation of Christ and the revelation of Jesus to the Gentiles (represented by the Magi) on the traditional date of January 6.

The sixth day of January has roots that go back to the Roman Empire and the early Church. Christians in the Eastern part of the Empire celebrated Christmas on January 6 while those in the West celebrated on December 25. Because of the different liturgical and civil calendars, some places refer to the feast of Epiphany as “Old Christmas.” In Ireland and other countries, the term “Little Christmas” became more common.

Over the centuries many countries and cultures have developed their own names and traditions to celebrate this day. In some parts of the Church – especially in Eastern Europe, Spain, Italy, and Latin America – the feast of the Epiphany has often been a bigger and more popular celebration than Christmas.

In Spain, the Three Kings bring toys to children on January 6, just as they brought gifts to the Baby Jesus. In many Latin American countries and cultures, children leave their shoes by the door to receive presents from the Magi.

(Click HERE for images of Epiphany celebrations in our Spanish-speaking parishes)

In Louisiana, “Kings Cakes” are baked on Epiphany and the season of “Mardi Gras” officially begins. In some homes and religious communities (including the Oblates), a cupcake or special dessert is served at dinner and the family or community member who finds a bean in the cake is named “king” or “queen” for the day.

Whatever the tradition, whatever the day, Epiphany is a special time to celebrate the light of Christ and the presence of God in our world.

In my life, I appreciate “Little Christmas” not only because of my Irish ancestry but also because of my Salesian heritage. In the Salesian tradition the emphasis on the ordinary and little virtues, finding the sacred in daily life and the universal call to holiness are all themes found in the story of the Magi and the Christ Child.

The Gospel tells us that after having encountered Jesus the Magi returned home another way (Matthew 2:12). May we return to our daily duties having been transformed by the message of Christmas and our own visit to the newborn king.

As the calendar and liturgy transition from Christmas to Ordinary Time, our Salesian spirituality leads us to see God in the everyday moments and the familiar, routines of life. For many people, today is just another “ordinary” day. It is a time for work, school, and other common activities. Why not take a little time today to see the sacred that surrounds us and the beauty and joy of the world? And as the classic song reminds us… “have yourself a merry little Christmas!”

Rev. Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Director of Development

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

A Hope-filled New Year

In the past few weeks, I’ve heard numerous people say, “I hope this New Year is better than the last.” More often than not, there is a note of disbelief in their voice despite the hope they have in mind. It is as if a better New Year is a futile hope. People expect the challenges of this past year to continue without pause. Without even saying it, you and I know the challenges in mind are coping with the continued threat and heartache of Covid, recovering after hurricanes or floods, trying to understand the political scene and a paralyzed government. There is the craziness of random violence, the wounds of selfishness, greed, cynicism, loss, illness, and more. Our world is wounded, and the pain lingers.

Fortunately, our faith leads us to live in hope in the face of all this, confident that the Lord loves us and wishes only the unimaginable best for all of us. I am grateful for this hope born of our faith. I am also thankful for the various ways God expresses love in my life through the lives of others. One such moment happened on Christmas Eve. On that day, my 98-year-old mother met, for the first time, her 43rd grandchild, six-month-old Lucas Patrick Loughran. Not only is Lucas my mother’s 43rd grandchild, but he is also her 73rd descendent, with a few more on the way.

When my nephew handed this infant his son to my mother, Florence, you could be sure there were a lot of oohs and aahs. The photo of that moment is above. This photo evokes some strong emotions in me. First, of course, is the appreciation I have for the love my mother showered on her eight children as she raised us, and the affection and concern she continues to show for all 73 of her descendants. She is proud of all of us and constantly worries about us. With this photo, I’m also aware of the beauty of God in the gift of a new life, innocent and full of potential. This photo in itself evokes hope and happiness. I can’t help but see the image of the Madonna and child in this photo, either. 

So, despite all the loss, cynicism, futility, and fear we experience in our lives and our world, God continues to reveal goodness, inspire love, create beauty, and bring us hope. And, if you want another example of hope in the darkness that touches our lives, my 98-year-old mother just ordered new countertops for her kitchen. Beat that!

Have a Happy and Hope-filled New Year! 

Fr. Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Epiphany and Latin Christmas Tradition

Live Jesus! 2022

Live Jesus! 2022 is a half-day Lenten retreat sponsored by the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales. This is a morning of reflection, fellowship, and prayer based upon the humble and gentle spirituality of St. Francis de Sales and St. Jane de Chantal.

The April event is hosted by St. Thomas the Apostle Parish in Glen Mills, Pennsylvania.

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Salesian  Spirituality helps believers develop a  deeper relationship with God through Jesus by defining a lifestyle centered on the little virtues: gentleness,  humility,  patience,  gratitude,  perseverance, and simplicity.  This special event is an opportunity in  Lent to retreat from our fast-paced world and turn to the quietness of our hearts.  

“Healing  Relationships…Let  It  Begin with  Me,” is this year’s theme. This invites attendees to reflect on the relationships in their lives.  Don’t miss this opportunity for believers throughout the area to gather in prayer and fellowship to reflect on God's gifts.

SATURDAY, APRIL 2, 2022

St. Thomas the Apostle Parish

Glen Mills, Pennsylvania

8:00 AM Continental Breakfast

8:45 AM Welcome/Opening Prayer

9:45 AM Keynote, Fr. Tom Dailey, OSFS,

"Healing Relationships . . .Let It Begin With Me"

10:45 AM Eucharist Exposition Prayer & Confessions

11:15 AM Sr. Anne Elizbeth Eder, OSFS "Healing Relationships...Let It Begin With Me - Foundations"

11:50 PM - Closing

MORE ON THE KEYNOTE:

Fr. Dailey’s presentation will explore how the worldview of Salesian Spirituality remains profoundly relational. Letting our theme begin with St. Francis de Sales, we will look to his experience and his writing to explore (1) our individual relationship with God, (2) our interpersonal relationship with others among our families, friends, and foundations, and (3) our social relationships, in a culture that makes living relationally a daily challenge.

In each of these expanding circles of relationships, we will point to a “little virtue” that can help us practically to build, and heal, our many relationships.

All county and state COVID protocols will be followed at both Live Jesus! 2022 events. As with all Live Jesus! events, a video recording of the entire event will be available. At this point, we are not planning on a ZOOM option for Live Jesus! 2022.