Pam Burson: Administrative Aide, Oblates of St. Francis de Sales, Toledo-Detroit Province
Pam Burson with her son, Ben
It is now two months since my youngest graduated from St. Francis de Sales School (SFS). Ben was the student body president for the Class of ‘22 and he gave a Salesian reflection at the opening school mass last September. It brought me to tears knowing the impact this community had on him. Ben lives by the class theme, “Do ordinary things extraordinarily well, and with great love.”
I’ve heard quotes from Saint Francis since my oldest son was a freshman in 2009. “Be who you are and be that perfectly well” was spoken frequently. Over the years I would pick up a few more. “Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy, then a full hour is really needed.” This was especially meaningful when I had three children in high school. Adam (SFS ’13), Teresa (St. Ursula ’15), and Joe (SFS ’16). Those years were a blur with sports, dances, recitals, and activities. Ben was in elementary school and I was working. Suffice it to say, our calendar was full.
Fast forward to All Saints Day 2016. November 1 was a Tuesday. I was at work when my daughter texted me that the police had come to our door asking to contact me. After many frantic phone calls, I would learn that my oldest son had passed away out of state that morning. Our world was forever changed.
In this, my Salesian reflection I want to express how relatable Saint Francis is in the present time. Somehow over 400 years ago he knew to write this to me…ok, maybe not TO me, but it sure feels that way. “Do not fret about what will happen tomorrow, for the same eternal Father who takes care of you today will look out for you tomorrow and always. Either he will keep you from harm, or he will give you invincible courage to endure it.”
I began working for the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales three years ago. I try to learn as much as I can about Saint Francis. I’m surrounded by his gentleness and strength. Suaviter et Fortiter as they say. May you find your quote (or several) to live by.
