Spiritual Reflections

Eat Fish

Last Friday, I had fish for dinner.  It was a Friday during Lent, meaning most Catholics observe the meatless Friday rule by having fish on their dinner menu.  Fridays during Lent are one of the few times I eat fish. I don’t like fish, never have, and probably never will but it’s Lent, and I eat fish.  I’ve learned to tolerate this annual penance, not happily, but I sit at the table and quietly eat what I don’t enjoy.  I do it because it helps me live the spirit of the season. 

Eating fish on Lenten Fridays helps me remember that this season is a time for me to discover those things that are less tasteful in my life. Lent is a time to reflect and identify the habits, attitudes and behaviors that prevent me from successfully “living Jesus.”  Fish Fridays help me remember the practice of Lent and maintain the spirit and focus of this penitential season. 

Linguistically, lent is derived from an old English word meaning springtime.  In Latin, “lente” means slowly.  Lent points to the coming of spring and invites us to slow down our lives to take stock of ourselves. Saint Francis de Sales preached, wrote and advised many on the spirit of Lent and fasting. Here are some of his encouragements for this season. 

Saint Francis wrote that “fasting is not a virtue,” but fasting can lead us to virtue.  Paraphrasing Francis in his Introduction to the Devout Life, he encourages us to fast with our whole being.  If we have offended God through the eyes, ears, tongue and other senses, why should we not also make them fast? The ears, by depriving them of listening to destructive and cynical talk, only to fill the mind with negative and dark images. The tongue, by avoiding judgmental, offensive, gossipy and negative comments or discussions. “We ought also to cut off useless thoughts, vain memories, superfluous appetites and desires of our will.”

Eating fish on Fridays is not going to save my soul. But, as I abstain from meat on Fridays, it reminds me to abstain from actions, behaviors and attitudes that lead me away from Christ. Lent, in a small way, allows us to imitate Christ’s forty days in the desert. It is a time to let ourselves be unprotected, vulnerable and aware of our sinfulness so that we may turn again to the light leading us to God through the mercy of Christ. Lent invites us to stop eating whatever protects us from facing the desert inside us so we can finally give the angels a chance to feed us.

The need for Lent is in all of us. Without this time, we cannot correctly prepare; hearts open, thirsting and ready for the waters of life and the grace of Easter. 

So, Eat Fish!

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Perfection

When I was a junior at North Catholic High School (Philadelphia, PA), I remember our Christian Morality teacher began the course by quoting the Scripture passage many of us heard last weekend, “Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Matthew 5:48).  As a 16-year-old average student, this teaching seemed out of reach; it seemed impossible.  I kept asking myself, “How can anyone be perfect?”  I believed that perfection meant being better than others, being without any problems, going through life minus struggles and sins.  With that definition in my mind, I reasoned that only Jesus and the saints were perfect.  Perhaps Jesus did not mean for his followers to take this so literally. 

Today, I think I have a better understanding of this teaching.  Jesus really did mean what he said.  He does not want us to be “average” or “pretty good.”  He wants perfection!  While this is still a challenge, I am able to see that it is possible for all of us.  I think we have to separate the call of Jesus to be our best and the psychological pressure to be flawless.  The latter idea can lead to stress, burnout or guilt.  

The message of Jesus is a call to be perfect, to become perfected and to grow in holiness.  This is the Christian call to become saints.  This is the vocation we were all given at baptism. This is the challenge to transform ourselves into what God has called us to be.  Saint Francis de Sales tells us again and again to “be who you are and be that well.”  If we try our best to be our best, we can transform ourselves and the entire world into the Kingdom of God. 

For de Sales, perfection is about striving to live each and every moment in the Grace of God.  Tomorrow is not yet here and yesterday is gone forever.  All we have is the present moment.  It is in this moment that we are called to live perfectly.  And if we can do this in the present moment, what is keeping us from doing it in the next moment?  Over time, these moments of perfection will get easier and our call to holiness will grow stronger.  Francis encourages us when he wrote, “God will lead us to perfection one step at a time.”

Yesterday, the Church began the season of Lent.  We all know this a penitential period of preparation for Easter.  It is also a time for Christians to prepare for the Kingdom – a time to prepare for perfection. Perhaps this is a moment to pursue holiness.  Perhaps we can make this Lent an opportunity to become a saint!

Father Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Recreation for Renewed Reflection

Father Marty Lukas, OSFS and Father Jack Loughran, OSFS, with Steve Fox.

My secrets out!  I've been caught.  Last week I was on a Zoom conference with several other Oblates, and not wanting my location to distract from the business at hand, I did my best to disguise it.  Then, in the middle of the meeting, one of the participants said, "Jack, is that a palm tree outside that window behind you?"

It was, and my attempt to conceal the fact that I was at a resort in Cancun was foiled.  I couldn't convince them that palm trees do grow in Michigan.  And, of course, once I admitted where I was, I got a bit of grief from the guys stuck in the cold and snow of Michigan and Ohio.  "Must be nice!"  "Aren't you special?"  "Wish I could get away in the middle of winter."  I took the expected ribbing in the spirit of fun in which it was expressed.

My classmate, Father Marty Lukas, OSFS, and I have been traveling to Cancun with friends, Steve and Mary Fox, who own a number of time-share weeks at a beautiful beach resort, for over 20 years.  It is beautiful, especially in February when the sun and 84 degrees beat the pants off frigid Michigan.

I am a bit sheepish about having such a wonderful and extravagant vacation.  But, upon reading the following from the Introduction to the Devout Life by Saint Francis de Sales, I claim the wisdom of this Doctor of the Church!

Francis states in his classic work:

“It is sometimes necessary for us to relax both mind and body by some kind of recreation.  As Cassian relates; When a hunter one day found Saint John the Evangelist holding a partridge in his hand and stroking it by way of amusement, he asked how a man like him could spend time on so common and trivial a thing.  Saint John replied to him, ‘Why don’t you always carry your bow taut?’

“‘If it were always bent I’m afraid it would lose its spring and be useless when I needed it,’ the hunter answered. 

“To this, the apostle replied, ‘Don’t be surprised then if I sometimes relax my close application and attention of mind a bit and enjoy a little recreation so that I may afterwards apply myself fervently to contemplation.’ It is undoubtedly a defect to be so strict, ill-bred, uncouth and austere as to neither to take any recreation ourselves nor to allow it to others …It is the common prudence that gives due order, time, place and measure to all things.”

Some more wisdom from Saint Francis de Sales that serves body, mind and spirit.  I love it.

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

A Salesian Spirituality of Imperfection

As human beings we are more alike than we are different.  One characteristic we all share is that each of us, at some point in our lives, has made a mistake and, despite our good will and intentions, will probably continue to make them.

Saint Francis de Sales was aware of this.  In fact, he said that the spiritual life itself is comprised largely of mistakes because it is in our mistakes that we realize our own humanity, our own limits, and our need for God.  He writes, “We must never be astonished at finding ourselves imperfect…because there is no cure for it.”  Saint Francis asks us to acknowledge something we’d often rather avoid; namely, that as humans we are not, and will not be, perfect.  Instead, we must ask ourselves how we respond to our mistakes. 

Do we:

  • Take the time to learn from them or dismiss them?

  • Take responsibility when it is our fault or blame others?

  • Do we work to correct it or resort to self-pity?

  • Are we honest and accountable or do we play the victim?

Finally, Saint Francis also reminds us that after every mistake there is one thing we must do: pick ourselves up and continue moving forward as Jesus did when carrying the cross to Calvary.  During that walk Jesus was physically battered, emotionally drained, and going through physical upheaval.  Yet, after each fall, Jesus picked Himself up and continued going forward and persevered until He reached His destination.  How did He do it?  First, Jesus was supported through His prayer, His constant communication with the Father who loved Him and was with Him during His suffering.  Second, Jesus was supported by His friends who met Him on the way like His mother Mary, Mary Magdalene and the Beloved Disciple, John. 

Sometimes we can feel this way too: like we are carrying the weight of the world as we go through our days.  And the tools that Jesus used, prayer and friendship, we ought to use too.  By prayer we share our most intimate needs, desires, hopes, dreams and fears with God.  We ask God to be with us on the way.  And in friendship, we become closer to the people who will walk with us during our successes and our mistakes. 

When it comes to rising from our mistakes, let’s: 

  • Recognize our mistakes (our imperfections)

  • Take responsibility for their consequences

  • Pray & patiently try to change ourselves to avoid making them

  • Tell others what we are doing

  • Persevere in making the needed adjustments as we try and try again

As Saint Francis advises, “Perfection consists in fighting against our imperfections…In this enterprise, we must have courage and patience…in this…we are always victorious provided we are willing to fight.”  In other words, we fail only when we fall and decide to remain down.  We are perfect when we fall and then rise again, trusting in God’s love and mercy, and determined to change and do better.

May God be praised!

Father Michael Newman, OSFS

Pastor

Holy Family Parish, Adrian, MI

Sacred Heart Valentine

As we approach the middle of February, we don’t have to look too far to see images of Valentine’s Day in homes, shops and supermarkets.  Candy, cupids and flowers are also on display, but it is the heart that has become the primary symbol of romance and love.  Many histories of Valentine’s Day propose that the stylized image of a human heart became so popular because it appeals to our senses.  Most of us understand the importance of the heart for our health and well-being and this has been translated into seeing love as central to our life.  

In Catholic culture, the Sacred Heart of Jesus has become an icon of God’s love and mercy.  It is a centuries-old tradition that focuses on Christ’s physical heart as a symbol of His love for humanity.  The devotion has roots in the Middle Ages but it was in the late 17th century that Jesus appeared to Saint Margaret Mary Alacoque, a Visitation nun in France.  The Salesian tradition has always emphasized the love of God and the significance of speaking to one another “heart to heart.”   So, it was fitting that Christ chose to communicate His love for all humanity to a spiritual daughter of Saint Francis de Sales and Saint Jane de Chantal.  

In many ways, this devotion may have become popular for the same reasons the heart symbol gained prominence among romantics.  The Sacred Heart is a very tangible reminder of the love and mercy God has for His children.  

The Church encourages us to remember the Heart of Jesus throughout the year.   On the first Friday of each month, special prayers, litanies and holy hours are offered as Catholics recall the love of Jesus.  The actual feast of the Sacred Heart is celebrated each year a few weeks after Easter and Pentecost. 

In popular culture, the month of February is filled with heart shapes, love songs and romantic cards and decorations.   As we walk down the aisles of our drugstores and supermarkets, maybe we can walk with Saint Valentine.  As a Christian bishop, he often preached the words of Jesus, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble of heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11:29).   

My hope is that the Heart of Jesus will inspire us all year round.   Like Saint Margaret Mary, my prayer is that the Kingdom of Christ will be established in our own hearts.  And may we be able to say, along with the disciples walking to Emmaus, “Were not our hearts burning within us when he talked to us on the road and opened the Scriptures to us?” (Luke 24:32). 


Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

A Saint for Our Times

This past week, on January 24, the entire Salesian family, including the Oblates, celebrated the Feast of Saint Francis de Sales.  As our patron, all Oblates revere his goodness, faith and insights into the human heart, intelligence, the prolific body of written material on the devout life and his selflessness in caring for the spiritual journey of thousands and thousands of people.  

One of the traps of honoring any saint, though, is that we may find it easier to admire them than to imitate them.  Their lives and circumstances seem so removed from our own that we quickly distance ourselves from them.  Simone Weil,  a French philosopher, thoughtfully wrote, "It is not enough to merely have saints; we must have saints for our times."

While I agree with Simone Weil's insight, I believe Saint Francis de Sales IS a saint for our times, even though he died over 400 years ago.  One example of his relevance is a sobriquet attached to Saint Francis de Sales in the title, the Gentleman Saint.  It does not come from his position in society as a nobleman but his profound belief in the power of Christ's words in the gospel, "Learn from me, for I am gentle and humble of heart."  Our patron believed the gentleness of Christ was the way not only for social interchange but also the way to confront conflict, violence and evil. 

Throughout his life, Saint Francis de Sales was immersed in a Catholic community grappling with the Protestant Reformation and the violent religious wars that resulted.  He was attracted to a group named the Acarie Circle, a Catholic group who desired to rekindle devotion to the Catholic faith in France.  Some members of the Acarie Circle proposed a militant vision that sanctioned the use of force and violence to accomplish this goal.  Saint Francis de Sales, while cordial and respectful of the Acarie Circle, was not attracted to this method.  Instead of a vision of coercion and force, he embraced the gentleness of Christ as the way to lead others to devotion and a relationship with God. 

In this belief, he developed a theology of non-violence seen in the first sermon he gave at his induction as Provost of the Cathedral Chapter in the Diocese of Geneva. Saint Francis de Sales  wrote, “It will be by charity that the walls of Geneva must be shaken; by charity that the city must be invaded and by charity that it must be recovered.  I propose to you neither iron nor powder whose odor and taste call to mind the infernal furnace.  I am not forming one of those armies who soldiers have neither faith nor piety.  May our camp be the camp of God whose trumpets proclaim with accents all of gentleness, this song, “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God of armies.  It is on this camp that you must fix your gaze...we will conquer only with prayer and love."

Violence is an overwhelming presence in our lives.  It impacts almost every facet of  our world and society, graphically illustrated by the horrific fact that in the first 24 days of 2023, there have been over 40 mass shootings in the United States.  Indeed, fear dominates as a response to this reality, and often, fear itself leads to violence.

The words of Christ that prompted Saint Francis de Sales to choose gentleness over violence must be rooted in every heart of faith.  As we cope with our world's disdain for peace, let us pray for peace and embrace a gentle heart and a gentle way to confront sin and violence in the spirit of Christ and the example of Saint Francis de Sales. 

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Be the Light of Christ

Today is World Day for Consecrated Life, and US parishes will mark it this weekend. Begun in 1997 by Pope John Paul II, the commemoration is intended “to help the entire Church to esteem ever more greatly the witness of those persons who has chosen to follow Christ by means of the evangelical counsels” - poverty, chastity, obedience - and “to be a suitable occasion for consecrated persons to renew their commitment and rekindle the fervor which should inspire their offering of themselves to the Lord” (John Paul, 1997).

The pope selected the Feast of the Presentation of the Lord for this event. This feast is known as Candlemas Day, when the church blesses all of the candles to be used in the year in parishes, homes, and places of worship. All disciples, by virtue of our baptism, are called to be the light of Christ. Our tradition teaches us that vowed religious life is an intensification of the baptismal call to live Jesus.

As the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales profess these vows, we look forward to this day which coincides with the anniversary of the death of our founder, Blessed Louis Brisson, OSFS. His exhortation that we “reprint the Gospel” with our lives is an appropriate reminder for all of us, whether in religious, married, or the single life. Just as a small candle is lighted from the large paschal candle at every baptism, our lives are meant to be a flame of faith, hope and love to join with all the flames flickering throughout the world to set it ablaze with the love, peace and joy of Jesus.

Yes, this weekend we will have an opportunity to pray for those sisters, brothers and priests whose poverty, chastity and obedience inspired, taught, or animated us to be stronger and more faith-filled disciples. We also pray that each of us cooperates with the grace to deepen our commitment and renew the fervor of our own baptism for a world in great need of our light, which is the light of Christ.

Prayer for Consecrated Life

O God, throughout the ages you have called women and men to pursue lives of perfect charity through the evangelical counsels of poverty, chastity, and obedience. We give you thanks for these courageous witnesses of Faith and models of inspiration. Their pursuit of holy lives teaches us to make a more perfect offering of ourselves to you. Continue to enrich your Church by calling forth sons and daughters who, having found the pearl of great price, treasure the Kingdom of Heaven above all things. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, God, for ever and ever.

Amen.

Father Michael Murray, OSFS

Provincial Councilor, Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Parochial Vicar, St. John Neumann Parish, Reston, VA

How to Live Jesus!

Artwork by Brother Mickey McGrath, OSFS

Artwork by Brother Mickey McGrath, OSFS

I write this reflection from Baton Rouge, LA where I am preaching a Parish Mission at St. George Parish.  The parish Music Director, Joseph Smaldino, worked with the parish Director of Adult Faith Formation, Karen Fawley, Pastor Father Paul Yi and the Parish Staff to develop the Mission Theme.  We are reflecting on Making Ordinary Time Extraordinary by Living Jesus.  It is always a great gift to discover how many people have been touched by Salesian Spirituality.  I even met a couple, the Daigles, who belonged to Our Lady of Good Counsel, an Oblate parish in Vienna, VA, before moving to Baton Rouge.

Saint Francis de Sales said, “Many are satisfied with carrying the Lord on their tongue, recounting His marvels and praising Him with great ardor; others carry Him in their hearts with tender and loving affection, which becomes part and parcel of their lives, thinking of Him and speaking to Him. But these two ways of carrying the Lord do not amount to much if the third element of carrying Him in their arms by good works is missing.” (Sermons 2; O. IX, p. 22)  As much as we might love the Lord or speak about Jesus, it is by good works, carrying the Lord in our arms, that He is known. It is by Living Jesus that He is known and seen.  I like to put it this way: Love is known when it is shown.  Jesus is known when He is shown by our words, deeds and attitudes.

My mother’s version of this was, “Don’t tell me you love me. Clean the toilet. Do the dishes. Give me flowers that you pick from our garden or buy from the store. Tell me you’re sorry and show me that you mean it.”  In other words, show me that you love me.  I believe that is the message that de Sales conveys by telling us that we must carry the Lord in our arms by good works.  Mother Frances de Sales de Chappuis, the Good Mother, said it this way, “Imprint the Gospel in your flesh and blood.”  So I ask, “Do we? Do I?”

I see it in little and big ways.  A wife walks by the side of her husband who uses a walker, ready to assist him if necessary but supporting his independence as much as possible.  A couple holds hands while sitting together or walking down the street.  On the day of my writing this reflection, a man fell before our session and people immediately got up to see if he was alright and to offer a hand to help him stand up.  People volunteer to assist others in need, like one of our confreres who has gone to Florida twice to help with hurricane relief.  Students go on mission trips during their breaks, like the students I would take to Appalachia when I was a University Chaplain,  the students from Salesianum who recently served in Central America, or the people who volunteer at De Sales Service Works in Camden, NJ. Love is shown when people stop to visit with or eat with one of our sisters and brothers who are homeless.  People bring meals to assist a family in need, drive others to appointments or offer to sit with a spouse suffering from dementia or on hospice so that the caregiver can have some relief.  Where do you see someone carrying the Lord in their hands?  Where do you help Jesus be known because He is shown in your good works?

A number of years ago I worked with a man whose daughter went to Bishop Ireton High School, a high school in Alexandria, VA that was administrated by the Oblates for many years.  He and his wife went to a Live Jesus! event.  While they were registering, they heard a woman behind them read one of the banners.  Instead of “Live Jesus” she read “Jesus, Live!”  She saw that sign and proclaimed that the day would be better than she had thought it would be.  She was going to see Jesus alive that day.  Well, after we laughed, our conversation reflected on the fact that when we carry the Lord in our arms by our actions, our words of support, our prayers, an email or a phone call and….you fill in the blank, we live Jesus in ways that help Him to come alive.  Our Salesian Spirituality makes a real and practical difference in people’s lives. 

I find this both comforting and challenging.  The comfort comes from the fact that Jesus is as near as our hearts, our minds and our very bodies.  The challenge comes from the fact that living Jesus, carrying Him in my arms by doing good works, stretches me to look and see where those works are needed and then to actually do them.  And so I ask myself:

  •  “How can I carry Jesus in my arms by good works?” 

  •  “Where do I see Jesus?”  

  • “Where can I live Jesus so that He is seen by others?” 

When we do these things, the ordinary becomes extraordinary because the One whose name is engraved on our hearts, Jesus, is made visible for others to know and see Him.  Live Jesus and make Him alive in our midst so that His love can be known by being shown.  May God be praised!

Father Paul Colloton, OSFS

Superior, De Sales Centre Oblate Residence

Childs, MD

The Bond of Cousins

Father Jack celebrating the Fouth of July with his cousins ( July 4, 2022).

This week the universal Church celebrated the feast of Saint Francis de Sales.  Next week (January 31), we will remember Saint John Bosco.  He was so influenced by the teachings and philosophy of the Gentleman Saint, that when he founded a religious order, he named it the Society of St. Francis de Sales (popularly known as the “Salesians” of Don Bosco).   

Cousins celebrating Easter in 1972.  Father Jack is the little guy in the suit jacket!

Because we share a common patron and were founded around the same time, the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales and the Salesians are often confused.  While there are some similarities and connections, we each have our own charism and mission. Using a metaphor we are all familiar with, I tell people that our two religious communities are like “spiritual cousins.”  

I grew up in a large Polish and Irish family with lots and lots of cousins.  I still see many of them on a regular basis and I consider them not only family, but friends. Many memes and social media posts remind us of the importance of our extended family.  One image reads, “Cousins are like the stars – you can’t always seem them, but you know they are always there.”  Another quote reminds us that, “cousins are a little bit of childhood that can never be lost.”  But my favorite poem states, “side by side or miles apart, cousins will always be connected by the heart.”

I like this saying most because Salesian Spirituality is all about the heart.   When we invite Jesus into our lives, he begins to live in our hearts and in our actions.  Our devotion to the Lord and our faithful friendship with others help us to put the Gospel into practice.  In all of our relationships, we can connect as sisters, as brothers, as cousins.   We can see in all people a common humanity and dignity that helps us to love God by loving one another.     

The many religious orders that follow the spirit of Saint Francis are all focused on his call to live like Jesus (Vive Jesu).  Like cousins who are related but also unique, each group will emphasize a different aspect of the life, example and teaching of the gentle bishop of Geneva.  Each community will point to a particular virtue or message of our spiritual father. 

All of the followers of Saint Francis – lay, religious and clergy – are connected by the heart.  All of us respond, in our own heart, to the call to holiness.  Each, in our own vocation, try to live the devout life.  Like any family, we are not always successful.  We may argue and struggle and sometimes not get along, but we recognize our common bond.  Saint Francis told us “we have no bond but the bond of love.”  May all of our bonds – those of family and friends – sustain and strengthen us in our journey through life.

Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Spreading Our Wings and Taking Flight: Lives of Surrender and Love

As you have probably noticed lately, we have been making a big to-do about the release of an Apostolic Letter, Totum Amoris Est, issued by Pope Francis on the 400th anniversary of the death of Saint Francis de Sales.  At this point, you might be asking yourself: “Why are the Oblates so excited?  Why are they making such a big deal about this?”  I will provide you with an honest answer.  While Francis de Sales is a highly quoted, beloved and a brilliant, yet relatable Doctor of the Church, he doesn’t get the same kind of attention some of the other giants do, saints like Augustine, Thomas Aquinas and Francis of Assisi.  Honestly, we are okay with that.  Those are all great saints, ones that Francis de Sales himself happened to love but when our saint gets his moment, we seize it.  

We seize it because of our mission to share this spirituality and this moment provides us with a special opportunity to do just that.  We share that spirituality because it has changed the world, the Church and each of us Oblates.  It has made us much more keenly aware of the Love of God.  It has given us a simple, yet clear path to say “yes” to Him.  It’s something that we want to share because we want you to experience the presence of God in your life.  Francis de Sales is not the reason that God’s love is accessible.  He has shown us in “his method” how accessible God’s love has always been.  As Pope Francis wrote: “It was a method that renounced all harshness and respected completely the dignity and gifts of the devout soul.”

The devout soul has its own personal relationship with God, one that calls for our “yes.”  As the Holy Father reflects on the teaching of Francis de Sales, he writes: “It is up to us to take flight or to remain on the ground.  Even as he bestows his grace, God would not have us rise without our consent.”  So as Francis tells us in the Treatise on the Love of God, we have a choice to follow the lead of God’s inspirations or to reject them.  In the words of Pope Francis: “Each person is responsible for cooperating with his or her own fulfillment, with spreading his or her wings with confident trust before the gust of God’s wind.”   

To spread our wings with confident trust means that we know that God’s wind will lift us, that we will soar.  Sometimes we have a hard time trusting that this will happen.  We grow in that trust, we live in that trust with what Francis de Sales calls devotion.  The Pope tells us that devotion from a Salesian perspective is something very real and practical, “…a style of life, a way of living immersed in our concrete daily existence” that “embraces and discovers meaning in the little things.”  

Why do the little things matter?  Sometimes we might be tempted to say that even if they did in the past, the world is too askew now for any change to come from them.  We are tempted to give up, to think that our little actions in no way matter.

Pope Francis reminds us why they do.  He does it by highlighting how much the world changed in the time of Saint Francis de Sales.  As a young man, de Sales went to Paris and found a place and a people devastated by the Wars of Religion.  When he returned many years later, he found as the Pope calls it “[a] whole world athirst for God.”  “…[H]e sensed an authentic ‘epochal shift’ that demanded a response.”  What is fascinating is that the dear saint had an epochal shift himself, from interior spiritual torment in his youth to interior peace.  He encountered Jesus Christ which led him to proclaim in the Treatise that “Nothing sways the heart as much as love.”

Thus, why Francis de Sales can speak to us…He does so with authenticity.  He found his peace through what Pope Francis calls a “steady cultivation of lived experience.”  He did this in the same way the saint encourages us to do even now, to cultivate an interior life, an interior peace that “does not separate us from the world but teaches us how to live in it and appreciate it.”  

As Francis de Sales came to know and love God in a powerful way, he surrendered to the Lord.  He spread his wings, and the wind of God sent him soaring.  That love, that peace that he sought so desperately as a young man, he found in his daily encounters with the Lord, in quiet prayer, in little actions, in friendship and in charity.  Pope Francis emphasizes a fundamental Salesian teaching: devotion and charity cannot be separated.  Francis de Sales showed how making loving God his way of life led to his love of others.  “Today he bids us set aside undue concern for ourselves, for our structures and what society thinks about us, and consider instead the real spiritual needs and expectations of our people.”

If we embrace and discover meaning in the little things, we will realize how they make a major difference.  Our dear saint learned that in his own life.  He spread his wings with a confident trust and God lifted him to soar.  We can do the same and the amazing thing, the almost unbelievable thing, is that the accumulation of little acts of devotion and charity transform the world.  We have spent our lives seeking to pass that simple message on to you.  Now, we are hoping that through the authenticity of your own life, you might continue to pass this on as well.  Just remember, though, it will come in the way you authentically witness, how in the simple, daily ways you show the epochal shift, how the soaring comes in spreading your wings every day and allowing God’s wind to take you where you need to be and to the people you are called to encounter.

The Light Continues

The liturgical season of Christmas wrapped up this past Monday with the feast of the Baptism of the Lord.  This feast should remind us of our own baptism.  The light that came into the world at Christmas is the same light that fills our souls when we are brought into the Church.  This light continues to brighten as each of us grow in our communion with God throughout our lives. 

The Gospel proclaimed on Christmas day was the Prologue of Saint John (Jn 1:1-5) where the Evangelist tells us that “the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”

Throughout the weeks of Christmas, I have meditated on this image.  Reflecting on light has been important for me this year since it was a holiday filled with a lot of sadness, death and funerals.   

My Oblate brother and friend, Reverend Joseph Jocco, died on the morning of December 24.   My brother-in-law’s mother (Geri Peek) passed away on December 26.  Colleen Dougherty, the mother of a former student and colleague (Shane Dougherty) lost her battle with cancer on December 31.  On the feast of the Lord’s Baptism, a friend and mentor (Sister Jeanette Lawlor, CSFN) died after a brief illness.  It seemed that from the very first hours of the feast to the very last celebrations of the season, death and darkness were prevailing. 

The challenge this Christmas was to see God in these moments and in these sad situations... even in the clouds, amidst the confusion and among the questions we all have about life, death and our time on Earth.

I know I am not the only one experiencing loss and sorrow during the “most wonderful time of the year.”  Many people experience loneliness, depression and loss during the holidays.  When we are confronted with the shadows and darkness of life, the lights of Christmas can sometimes be a reminder of our emptiness rather than a renewal of our spirit.   

The good news for Christians is that we recognize God is at work in the world - in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, in sunshine and clouds.  In all seasons and circumstances, God is with us, Emmanuel.

At Christmas, God gave us the greatest gift, His Son.  We believe the Savior was born and lived so that we could continue to live.  The modern calypso carol “Mary’s Boychild, Jesus Christ” beautifully announces to us, “Hark, now, hear the angels sing, a new king’s born today... and man will live forevermore because of Christmas Day!”  

Through His Son, God gave us the assurance that as hard as it is, as difficult as it may make life, death will not have the final word.

The Word was made flesh and still dwells among us – in our family and friends, in the love we share and in the spirit of those we have lost. 

So even though the Church concluded the season of the Incarnation this past week (even though the decorations and music have mostly disappeared), the Word will continue, the light will keep shining and Christ will keep being born into our lives – because of Christmas Day!

Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

You Are Not the Center of Anything, Except...

Father Bob Bazzoli, OSFS, and I were ordained together on June 4th some 34 years ago. His parents and my mom (my dad died too early) would often go out to dinner on Saturday nights when Bob was at St. Joachim Parish and I at Salesianum School. One Saturday, his sisters were interlopers and joined us for dinner on June 4th.

Naturally, I thought we were celebrating the anniversary. When I realized we were celebrating his mom’s birthday, I explained my surprise (I never remembered her birthday) to which one of his sisters exclaimed (jokingly, I hope), “It’s not always about you, John.” Honest mistake.

There are times when we want things to be about us, our way, our idea, and our plan. We feign openness to another’s idea, but we really want them to affirm us, perhaps “pat us on the back.” We may not own up to this, as we perceive others constantly seeking attention, wanting to be the queen of the universe, the king of the world. At times, we may think we are the center of everything.

While driving a few Sundays ago, I was listening to a lecture (I’m a geek) on Richard Rohr’s idea of our first half of life (building a name, career, credentials) and the second half of life (soul-centered not ego-centered). I cannot remember the exact context, but it probably had to do with stop reaching for this award or that accolade. He simply proclaimed, “You’re not the center of anything, except the heart of God.”

We, you, I are at the CENTER of God’s heart. In that pulsating, life-giving heart of God, we can be found. We marvel at God’s creative action in all the wonders God created, none greater than the human person who possesses God’s very likeness and image. Of all the beauty in this world, the only thing God wants back is us! We come from God and spend our lives returning to God.

We are the CENTER of God’s heart. From this cherished position, God invites us daily into relationship. We are always in the presence of God. We may leave God’s presence for this want or some fleeting, selfish desire, but God remains waiting, smiling, and loving us. Saint Augustine spoke of this tiny “God-shaped hole,” a place inside our hearts that only God can fill. In another place he wrote, “You have made us for yourself and our hearts are restless until they rest in you, O Lord.” To realize that “the one who nothing greater can be imagined,” as Saint Anselm proclaimed, has us as the CENTER of his heart is absolutely incredible. Stay with this for some time. If we resonate with this, humbly accept this gift, live our life from this acknowledgment, I would think our desire to be the center of anything else is meaningless or at least pales in comparison. It leads us to a “letting go” of what we thought mattered to a “falling into” the LOVER known as God who keeps us at the CENTER of His heart. It allows us to see that everyone else enjoys this gift. Then, we can appreciate the dignity of others, all others, no one excluded. But God loving us and we loving God is not enough. Saint Francis de Sales explains that the true nature of love is to be ecstatic, to go outside the two lovers, to a third thing which is each other.

We are the CENTER of God’s heart. Own this and let it empower you to embrace the other as God’s center, too. Let go of the differences that too often alienate, judge, demonize, assure us of being right and just loved. God’s love is infinite and always available. Saint Catherine of Siena had it correct, God is pazzo d’amore, crazy in love with us. To borrow from Prince, “Let’s go crazy, too.” For when we love, we are God-like for GOD IS LOVE.

Father John Fisher, OSFS

Pastor, Our Mother of Consolation Parish

Philadelphia, PA

Is This Who We've Waited For?

“Follow the star to a place unexpected

Would you believe, after all we've projected

A child in a manger?

Lowly and small, the weakest of all

Unlikeliest hero, wrapped in his mother's shawl

Just a child

Is this who we've waited for?”

These are the opening words of the song “How Many Kings,” written by Jason Germain and Marc Martel of the Christian Rock group known as Downhere.  The song presents the discovery of the infant Jesus as a surprising revelation.  Where is the king?  Where is the mighty warrior?  What am I doing here and why did I make the effort to find Him if this is all there is?  But this is precisely the point; there is more to come, a lot more.  The light of the star only opened the mind of the Magi; it is up to them to open their eyes and see with faith the wonder of God in their midst.

The light of the Star of Bethlehem is symbolic of God’s inspiration that awakens our minds and enlivens our hearts.  In Book 2, chapter 9 of the Treatise on the Love of God, Saint Francis de Sales writes, “Inspiration comes down from heaven like an angel.  It strikes straightway on the poor sinner’s heart and arouses him so that he is lifted up out of his iniquity.”  God always makes the first move, inviting us to find and love Him.  We sense it as “stirrings” within us, writes DeSales.  It doesn’t come with the exigency of a trumpet blast, but simply and gently as a newborn reaching for us, stimulating a flutter in our stomachs and smiles on our faces.

Is this what we have waited for?  A small baby and gentle stirrings?  Not only would Saint Francis de Sales answer in the affirmative, but I also think he would say that it is essential because it allows for a voluntary reception of God’s grace.  Grace will never overwhelm or coerce us.  If we are to love God, we must remain free to choose to accept or reject His inspiration to love and to place our faith in His son born lowly and small.

Is this who we have waited for?  The only way to get a personally convincing answer to this question is to respond to the “stirrings” that God’s inspiration implants within us.  When the Magi returned home, did they leave God’s inspiration behind?  Did their brief encounter open their eyes of faith so they could see that they had to continue to follow the star, the inspiration of God, for the rest of their lives?  What about us?  God’s stirrings are within us, right now, in fact.  Those stirrings lead us to God’s son.  It is up to us to open our eyes in faith and see the one we have waited for is indeed in our midst!

Father Robert Rutledge, OSFS

Holy Infant Catholic Church

Durham, NC

Everything Pertains to Love

Those who follow and seek to immerse themselves in the spirituality of Saint Francis de Sales received a gift from Pope Francis on December 28, 2022.  On that date, Pope Francis published the Apostolic Letter, Totum Amoris Est, (Everything Pertains to Love) on the fourth centenary of the death of Saint Francis de Sales. 

In sending this Letter to the Oblates around the world, our Superior General, Father Barry Strong, OSFS, wrote:

“At his Wednesday General Audience, Pope Francis reflected on the mystery of Christ’s birth and continually drew inspiration from Saint Francis de Sales. During this period of catechesis, he noted that the manger teaches us ‘the perfect renunciation of all goods’ since such a rustic crib combines ‘tenderness and austerity, love and sorrow, sweetness and harshness.’”

Within this context, he (Pope Francis) announced the Apostolic Letter. He remarked, “It is entitled, ‘Everything Pertains to Love,’ taking up a characteristic expression of the holy bishop of Geneva.  In fact, this is how he wrote in the Treatise on the Love of God, ‘In the holy Church everything belongs to love, lives in love, is made by love and comes from love.’ And may we all go down this road of love, so beautiful.”

Having read the document, I know I will have to review it many times to reap the fullness of what Saint Francis de Sales and Pope Francis wrote.  I found the Letter both inspirational and practical in that the insights of Saint Francis de Sales can lead every soul into a healthy, nourishing relationship with God, allowing them to become living expressions of the Love of God in the world. 

A learned Oblate finished reading the Letter and commented, “I have a favorite section from the Letter.  It is, ‘For him, (Saint Francis), Christianity was not to be confused with a facile escapism or self-absorption, much less a dull and dreary obedience…Indeed, ‘there are Christians whose lives seem like Lent without Easter’, and while we can understand the grief of people who have to endure great suffering, ‘slowly but surely we all have to let the joy of faith begin to revive as a quiet yet firm trust, even amid the greatest distress.’”

A friend from Denver, a liturgist, musician and author, wrote me stating, “My favorite line of the document is this, attributed to Saint Francis de Sales, ‘Nothing sways the human heart as much as love.’ That’s a meditation all in itself.”

There is so much to reflect upon in the Pope’s Letter that I’m sure others will share their reflections in the coming months.  If you’re interested in reading it, you can find it here.

I read the entire document in one sitting.  Now I’m going to return to it one section at a time.  I’m sure it will inspire future reflections from me in this newsletter.  I’d love to read yours. 


Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Pope Publishes Apostolic Letter on Saint Francis de Sales

On December 28, the 400th Anniversary of the death of Saint Francis de Sales, Pope Francis issued his Apostolic Letter, Totum Amoris Est ("Everything Pertains To Love"), in which the Holy Father reminds us that the spirit of Charity cultivated by Saint Francis de Sales is now entrusted to us.

Pope Francis also invites us to spend Christmas with Saint Francis de Sales.
Read his remarks in his General Audience on December 28th, the 400th Anniversary of the death of Saint Francis de Sales.

 

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The Holy Family and My Family

Tomorrow, as our Christmas celebrations continue, the liturgy observes the Feast of the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph.  This is a day to remember the special role the Holy Family had in God’s plan for salvation.  It is also a time to reflect on our own family life.  It’s a day on which we can think about how we can strengthen communication between all family members, how to heal family wounds and walk with one another in daily life.

In my office in Wilmington, I have pictures of my family.   I have my parents, sisters, nieces and nephews.   I also have an image of my religious family - St. Francis, St. Jane, Blessed Louis Brisson and our Oblate founders.  There is one picture of a nun who is not a member of the Salesian family or of the Visitation Order.   That photograph is of my great aunt, Sister Rosalette Szamburska, CSFN (a member of the Congregation of the Holy Family of Nazareth).   The Sisters of the Holy Family are called to extend the Kingdom of God’s love by imitating the spirit of Jesus, Mary and Joseph. They do this in many ways, but their primary mission is to care for families.  

The picture of Sr. Rosalette reminds me that I am part of many families.  I have my family of origin and my religious family.   Even though the Oblates have a unique charism, I realize that all religious families learn from one another.  St. Bernard of Clairvoux, a Cisterian monk, often said: “I admire all religious orders.  I belong to one of them by observance but to all of them by charity. We all need one another.  The spiritual good which I do not own and possess, I receive from the others.” The life and prayer of all religious communities lift up the entire church.

I have learned from the Sisters of the Holy Family since I was a child.  Sister Rosalette would visit my home when she was back in Philadelphia and she was a visible witness that women and men could dedicate their lives to serving God and the Church and still be a part of their original family. 

After high school, I attended Holy Family College, was taught by the sisters, and saw first-hand the value they placed on education, family and faith. Today I continue my relationship with many members of the CSFN community. They remind me that our common way of life is a way that we can connect with families and with one another.  

As we celebrate the Christmas season, a season of family and faith, let us take time to focus on our own vocation.   Christianity is all about connections and relationships. Saint Francis de Sales reminds us that we all have a vocation, we are all called to do God’s will and to put the Gospel into practice.  My hope is that we can see in our religious communities, our parishes and our families the ways we can do this each day. By living, loving and learning from one another, we can make Jesus present on the earth again. We can make the world holy.   We can make our family holy.

Repetition for Mastery

In an address to the early Oblates, on December 12, 1894, Oblate Founder Blessed Louis Brisson shared his dismay at the news that several seminarians from the Diocese of Troyes who had chosen to go to Paris for ordination spent more time organizing and celebrating their post-ordination dinner and visiting places of interest in the capital city than they did in properly preparing for and celebrating their ordination itself.

In light of that, Father Brisson then directed that once a year the Ritual for Ordination was to be read aloud in the refectory during the meal.

Author Samuel Rodenhizer says, “If you want to remember something permanently, you must engage in lots of repetition…If you want to become accomplished at a skill, then you must devote yourself to repeating the activity over and over until you master it…If you want to make an activity so familiar that it becomes a habit requiring little further thought - then commit yourself to the repetition that yields retention.”

Oblates and Visitation Nuns around the world rejoice on the day of their Profession of Vows by publicly, aloud, pronouncing them again on the Feast of the Presentation of Mary on November 21.  The Oblates are also encouraged to renew their vows silently at Communion time on the first day of every month.  Every Easter Sunday all of us are invited to renew our baptismal vows aloud after the homily.

As wonderful as the day of Profession of Vows or Ordination or Marriage is, the emotion of the moment can cover the importance of the event.  My parents lived long enough to celebrate their golden wedding anniversary with a simple but loving public renewal of vows at Mass.  After the Mass, my mother said to me how much she appreciated the renewal.  She said, “You know the day your father and I were married I had so much going through my head I don’t even remember exactly what I said!”

While we draw up a final list of resolutions for the New Year you may want to check the dates and put on your new calendar the date of your Baptism, your First Holy Communion, your Wedding, Profession of Vows or Consecration anniversary and similar very special days in your life. And, on that day renew again for the year to come the commitment made through these very special events in your life. That way, regardless of the “external” celebrations, or lack thereof that may take place, the true nature of these special moments in your life may never be forgotten or misplaced.    

Father David Whalen, OSFS

St. Pius X Parish

Toledo, OH

Christmas

Many things make me smile during the holidays.  One is a memory of a nephew when he was about 6 years old.  A few days before Christmas, I was visiting his family with my parents.  My nephew was sitting in a chair in the living room corner, obviously pondering something.  He was naturally one of those  kids who never stopped moving, so his posture and mood were out of character.  I was looking at him, wondering what was going on in his head, when suddenly he popped out of the chair and announced to the room, “I hate Christmas!”  Asked why he hated Christmas, he stated, “Because it’s never gonna get here!”  His Advent “patient waiting” had reached its limit but he certainly brought a smile to my face.  

In 2012, Father Louis Fiorelli, OSFS, published a short booklet, “Inspired Common Sense: Seven Fundamental Themes of Salesian Spirituality.”  In this booklet, he states, “Saint  Francis de Sales understood the Incarnation as ‘God’s kiss to creation,’ the moment in salvation history when the divine and human hearts, at last, find one another.”

This image is a beautiful one to consider as we celebrate the birth of Christ this Sunday.  The moment of Christ’s birth, marked by dreams, angels, sheep, shepherds and a child in a manger, joins the miraculous with the mundane.  We should all smile at this thought and we do so with lights everywhere.  We light things up to celebrate this fantastic moment - trees, homes, bridges, skyscrapers, zoos, churches and more.  Local and national competitions reward the country’s most elaborate light displays.  Even the Oblate pastor I live with has set up seven Christmas trees in our home.  Why?  It seems a bit excessive but then again, maybe not! 

God is part of our history through the Incarnation in a new way.  We are moving toward the full reign of God.  It may take a few eons, but that is where we are headed, so we light things up to proclaim our hope and joy with this gift and smile.  I hope my nephew, now grown and with a child of his own, can instill this hope and joy in his son.  

So we gather at Christmas trees, parties and Christmas dinner tables and smile.  Smile at the world that says no to peace, happiness or justice.  We smile and say, Christ’s birth is the fulfillment of a promise – a promise God made to be with us always and to bring us glory.  And we pledge to live in a way that proclaims this wondrous and beautiful truth.  We pledge to live in love, to work for peace and to seek justice for all of God’s people!

That’s a Merry Christmas! May God bless us all with this gift! Smile!

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Advent Love

When thinking about joy, I distinguish it from happiness.  Here, too, I want to distinguish love from like.   Because of my own human frailty and temperament, there are some people who I struggle to like.  The situation usually has more to do with me than the other person.  A dear friend once told me that if I like someone, that person can do anything, and it would be fine with me.  But, if I dislike someone, the smallest thing she/he did that I find unacceptable would be catastrophic.  I want to believe that I have improved upon this significantly.  It has often been said that we don’t have to like everyone, but we are called to love everyone.  I think this has something to do with the fact that “love is of God.”

In his remarkable 10-DVD series Catholicism, Robert Barron defines love as “willing the good of the other as other.”  That is wanting what is best for another simple because they are other and not for what it could do for me.  The “good” that I will for him would be to know God more fully, so that his heart would change and the violence cease.  Whether we can see the image and likeness of God in others does not take away this presence within another.  Perhaps our love for another can make this clearer, more recognizable.

We must love because it has been mandated by Jesus.  Further, he takes this love to the highest level, “Love one another as I have loved you.”  This is a love that is total, complete, infinite, without merit, always on display, non-judgmental and a free gift.   We get a clear glimpse of this in spousal love, in parental love, and in the love shared between the best of friends.  Perhaps the best manifestation of this love is in prayer where we sit in total acceptance of the One who smiles on us, seeing us as so deserving of God’s infinite love even when this utterly amazes us.   Richard Rohr wrote, “Most of us were taught that God would love us if and when we change.  In fact, God loves you so that you can change.  What empowers change, what makes you desirous of change is the experience of love.  It is that inherent experience of love that becomes the engine of change.”  We must love because love is of God.  To love as God loves is indeed a very tall order.  We need great patience in this task for we are of God but not God.  So, our love is a process and somewhat imperfect.  Thus, Saint Francis de Sales often reminded people that perfection consists not in being perfect but in trying to be perfect.  It’s all in the trying.  What makes this doable speaks to Rohr’s point by letting God love us first.   For de Sales, this was a no-brainer, especially recognizing his favorite scripture was the Song of Songs, one great love song where the lover woos the beloved.  God takes the initiative because God wants to be with us, embracing us, holding and kissing us, the beloved.  We read in scripture, “See what love the Father has bestowed on us that we may be called the children of God.  Yet so we are.  The reason the world does not recognize us is that it did not know Him.  Beloved, we are God’s children now; what we shall be has not yet been revealed.  We do know that when it is revealed we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is” (1 John 3: 1-2).

Advent love reminds us of this promise yearly that we may fortify our efforts to love others as Christ has loved us.  It enables us to be loved fully and completely, warts and all.  It grounds us in a place of humility before God, so that in Salesian thought, we may be gentle toward others.  We are loved infinitely, so that we may, in turn, wish this for all others.  To love another is to will the good of the other as other.  “To love another person is to see the face of God,” as proclaimed in the epilogue of Les Misérables.

Advent love is a beautiful baby, born homeless in a manger, who shepherds and kings traveled to worship in awe but selected a different way home.  So too, our lives must change direction once we have met the Savior, the Prince of Peace, the author and sustainer of love.  It’s now a life of love.


Father John Fisher, OSFS

Pastor

Our Mother of Consolation Parish

Philadelphia, PA

Final Preparations

Immaculate Conception Church, Wilmington, NC. Photo by Justine Deitz, 2021.

This week many students are wrapping up their semester with projects, papers, and final exams. There are websites and media posts dedicated to helping students successfully “cram” for the final weeks of school.  The internet offers various ways to help a student navigate these stressful final days before Christmas Break.

As a faith community, we are moving into the final week of the Advent season and our preparations for the fullness of the Christmas season.  Like a student in December, we may feel worried, stressed, and overwhelmed that Christmas is almost here.  We may feel that we have not done enough on our Advent journey to prepare our homes and our hearts for the season of the Nativity.   

Perhaps we have not prayed as much as we had hoped. Maybe we did not light our Advent wreath as faithfully as we had wanted or maybe we did not get to Church as frequently as we had desired.  Our inaction may lead us to believe that it is too late to ignite the spirit of the Advent season or we may be tempted to “cram” the final week of Advent with extra prayers, devotions and services to somehow “make-up” for our late start of the Christmas cycle.  This does not always turn out well.  We wind up replacing the stress of shopping and decorating with the stress of praying and spiritually preparing. Either way, we are overwhelmed. 

A core message of the Christian faith is that it is never too late.  At the birth of His Son, God gave the world a second chance.  The Nativity of Our Lord is a new beginning for all of creation.  In his message at the Angelus in early December, Pope Francis reminded us, “Let us remember one thing:  with Jesus, there is always the possibility of beginning again.  It is never too late.  And let us not let this Advent go by like days on the calendar, because this is a moment of grace, a grace for us too, here and now.  There is always the possibility to begin again.  Be courageous.  Jesus is near to us.” 

Since Christmas Day falls on a Sunday this year, the Fourth Week of Advent gives us a full seven days to prepare our homes and our hearts.  Saint Francis de Sales tells us that “God will lead us to perfection one step at a time.”   During these final days of Advent, we are aware of how much we still must do to welcome Christ more completely into our lives.  We are acutely aware of our struggles, our stresses and our lack of perfection.  Let us follow the advice of Saint Francis and take things one day at a time, one step at a time.  

Christmas comes, ready or not.  The celebration of the birth of Jesus comes, no matter the season or state of our hearts, even when we are not always ready to receive him.  The Christmas song “O Little Town of Bethlehem” reminds us that, “No ear may hear his coming, but in this world of sin, where meek souls will receive him, still the dear Christ enters in.”  Christmas comes amid the darkness, the grief and the sins of this life. Christ is born for all of us. Christ is reborn in all of us.  May our preparations, no matter how much or how little, lead us to open our hearts and let the Lord enter into our lives.

Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Providence