DeSales Weekly

The Season of the Soul

The Season of the Soul

Fall can be a time of increased sadness and loneliness. In the Northern Hemisphere, the dying trees, the falling leaves, and the darkening days remind us that nothing lasts. How can we see each year, each day, as an occasion to grow close to God, even during this time of transition...

Walking in the Footsteps of Francis, Jane, and Margaret Mary

Recently, I embarked on an incredible and beauty-filled journey to our spiritual family’s homeland. As I reflected on having "walked in the footsteps" of our Salesian founders, I was moved to share my journey and thoughts with you...

Brick by Brick

Brick by Brick

At the St. Francis Faculty House in Toledo, we have an Oblate courtyard in between our chapel, school, and house. One year I decided to build a brick patio but I had no idea what I was getting myself into. The struggle led me to reflect on St. Francis' teachings of Spiritual dryness...

Margaret Mary, the Sacred Heart, and Salesian Spirituality

Margaret Mary, the Sacred Heart, and Salesian Spirituality

Jesus called Margaret Mary “the Beloved Disciple of the Sacred Heart.” As I learned more about the Oblates and Salesian Spiritualty, I came to understand the importance of the heart to the Salesian way of life...

Where do I look?

It’s wedding season! During the wedding ceremony, there are two moments that are my favorite. It is in these moments that I see parallels in my life and am reminded to keep my eyes and heart on Our Lord. What are these moments and their lessons...

Back to School: The Ecstasy of Work and Life

The phrase “ecstasy of work and life” in St. Francis' writings caught my attention as we approach a new school year with all the hustle-and-bustle it entails. What can lead us to feel this way during a times of change and the business of life?.....READ MORE

Room for Improvement

Fr. Joe Newman, OSFS, preaching at Camp DeSales.

It takes time to become an effective preacher. I have been preaching weekly for 10 years, and I still consider myself a newbie! It is a great blessing to be part of a community with so many excellent preachers. I love listening to my fellow Oblates’ thoughts and reflections on the upcoming readings for Sunday, and I often steal their ideas to flavor my homilies. I once stole my brother’s Christmas homily. My brother, Michael, is also an Oblate priest. I told him my delivery was better.

I learned a great lesson following the first public homily I ever preached. I was a deacon at St. John Neumann (Reston, VA), and the parish had a bench full of Oblates who were excellent preachers. Right after mass, one of the parishioners came to me with a simple question, “Do you know what the largest room in the world is?” Honestly, I thought this was some church thing so I responded, “St. Peter’s?” With a smile, he looked at me, “No, it’s the room for improvement!” As I said before, it’s such a blessing to be part of a community with excellent preachers. (I did not steal this story, it really happened to me.)

Oblate Fathers Mike and Joe Newman celebrated their ordinations together earlier this year.

I love telling this story. I always recount it with a great smile and laugh. This wisdom was not an insult because it was full of optimism and hope!

In a letter of spiritual direction written by Francis de Sales, he captures the truth of the virtue of humility:

“The humility that does not produce generosity is undoubtedly false, for true humility, after it has said, ‘I can do nothing; I am only absolute nothingness,’ suddenly gives place to generosity of spirit, which says, ‘There is nothing and there can be nothing that I am unable to do, so long as I put all my confidence in God, who can do all things.’ And so, buoyed up by this confidence, it courageously undertakes to do all that is commanded.”

After a decade of preaching, I see God at work. Talk to any preacher and you will hear a common insight, “What I say is not what they hear.” After hours of preparation and prayer, it is an often occurrence for people to stop me after mass, tell me the message they heard and its impact on their lives. The thing is, it’s often not the message I preached, it is even better! God is at work, and I am in wonder when I witness His activity.

Francis has a wonderful way of combining our nothingness with our greatness. Stumbling into the “room for improvement” does not lead us to anxiety, despair, or bitterness; instead, the largest room is full of hope, courage, and generosity. We are confident that our God, who led us into that room, will not abandon us. No, with fresh courage, our stumbles gain us confidence in God.

Fr. Joe Newman, OSFS

Provincial

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