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Eat Fish

Last Friday, I had fish for dinner.  It was a Friday during Lent, meaning most Catholics observe the meatless Friday rule by having fish on their dinner menu.  Fridays during Lent are one of the few times I eat fish. I don’t like fish, never have, and probably never will but it’s Lent, and I eat fish.  I’ve learned to tolerate this annual penance, not happily, but I sit at the table and quietly eat what I don’t enjoy.  I do it because it helps me live the spirit of the season. 

Eating fish on Lenten Fridays helps me remember that this season is a time for me to discover those things that are less tasteful in my life. Lent is a time to reflect and identify the habits, attitudes and behaviors that prevent me from successfully “living Jesus.”  Fish Fridays help me remember the practice of Lent and maintain the spirit and focus of this penitential season. 

Linguistically, lent is derived from an old English word meaning springtime.  In Latin, “lente” means slowly.  Lent points to the coming of spring and invites us to slow down our lives to take stock of ourselves. Saint Francis de Sales preached, wrote and advised many on the spirit of Lent and fasting. Here are some of his encouragements for this season. 

Saint Francis wrote that “fasting is not a virtue,” but fasting can lead us to virtue.  Paraphrasing Francis in his Introduction to the Devout Life, he encourages us to fast with our whole being.  If we have offended God through the eyes, ears, tongue and other senses, why should we not also make them fast? The ears, by depriving them of listening to destructive and cynical talk, only to fill the mind with negative and dark images. The tongue, by avoiding judgmental, offensive, gossipy and negative comments or discussions. “We ought also to cut off useless thoughts, vain memories, superfluous appetites and desires of our will.”

Eating fish on Fridays is not going to save my soul. But, as I abstain from meat on Fridays, it reminds me to abstain from actions, behaviors and attitudes that lead me away from Christ. Lent, in a small way, allows us to imitate Christ’s forty days in the desert. It is a time to let ourselves be unprotected, vulnerable and aware of our sinfulness so that we may turn again to the light leading us to God through the mercy of Christ. Lent invites us to stop eating whatever protects us from facing the desert inside us so we can finally give the angels a chance to feed us.

The need for Lent is in all of us. Without this time, we cannot correctly prepare; hearts open, thirsting and ready for the waters of life and the grace of Easter. 

So, Eat Fish!

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Perfection

When I was a junior at North Catholic High School (Philadelphia, PA), I remember our Christian Morality teacher began the course by quoting the Scripture passage many of us heard last weekend, “Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Matthew 5:48).  As a 16-year-old average student, this teaching seemed out of reach; it seemed impossible.  I kept asking myself, “How can anyone be perfect?”  I believed that perfection meant being better than others, being without any problems, going through life minus struggles and sins.  With that definition in my mind, I reasoned that only Jesus and the saints were perfect.  Perhaps Jesus did not mean for his followers to take this so literally. 

Today, I think I have a better understanding of this teaching.  Jesus really did mean what he said.  He does not want us to be “average” or “pretty good.”  He wants perfection!  While this is still a challenge, I am able to see that it is possible for all of us.  I think we have to separate the call of Jesus to be our best and the psychological pressure to be flawless.  The latter idea can lead to stress, burnout or guilt.  

The message of Jesus is a call to be perfect, to become perfected and to grow in holiness.  This is the Christian call to become saints.  This is the vocation we were all given at baptism. This is the challenge to transform ourselves into what God has called us to be.  Saint Francis de Sales tells us again and again to “be who you are and be that well.”  If we try our best to be our best, we can transform ourselves and the entire world into the Kingdom of God. 

For de Sales, perfection is about striving to live each and every moment in the Grace of God.  Tomorrow is not yet here and yesterday is gone forever.  All we have is the present moment.  It is in this moment that we are called to live perfectly.  And if we can do this in the present moment, what is keeping us from doing it in the next moment?  Over time, these moments of perfection will get easier and our call to holiness will grow stronger.  Francis encourages us when he wrote, “God will lead us to perfection one step at a time.”

Yesterday, the Church began the season of Lent.  We all know this a penitential period of preparation for Easter.  It is also a time for Christians to prepare for the Kingdom – a time to prepare for perfection. Perhaps this is a moment to pursue holiness.  Perhaps we can make this Lent an opportunity to become a saint!

Father Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Recreation for Renewed Reflection

Father Marty Lukas, OSFS and Father Jack Loughran, OSFS, with Steve Fox.

My secrets out!  I've been caught.  Last week I was on a Zoom conference with several other Oblates, and not wanting my location to distract from the business at hand, I did my best to disguise it.  Then, in the middle of the meeting, one of the participants said, "Jack, is that a palm tree outside that window behind you?"

It was, and my attempt to conceal the fact that I was at a resort in Cancun was foiled.  I couldn't convince them that palm trees do grow in Michigan.  And, of course, once I admitted where I was, I got a bit of grief from the guys stuck in the cold and snow of Michigan and Ohio.  "Must be nice!"  "Aren't you special?"  "Wish I could get away in the middle of winter."  I took the expected ribbing in the spirit of fun in which it was expressed.

My classmate, Father Marty Lukas, OSFS, and I have been traveling to Cancun with friends, Steve and Mary Fox, who own a number of time-share weeks at a beautiful beach resort, for over 20 years.  It is beautiful, especially in February when the sun and 84 degrees beat the pants off frigid Michigan.

I am a bit sheepish about having such a wonderful and extravagant vacation.  But, upon reading the following from the Introduction to the Devout Life by Saint Francis de Sales, I claim the wisdom of this Doctor of the Church!

Francis states in his classic work:

“It is sometimes necessary for us to relax both mind and body by some kind of recreation.  As Cassian relates; When a hunter one day found Saint John the Evangelist holding a partridge in his hand and stroking it by way of amusement, he asked how a man like him could spend time on so common and trivial a thing.  Saint John replied to him, ‘Why don’t you always carry your bow taut?’

“‘If it were always bent I’m afraid it would lose its spring and be useless when I needed it,’ the hunter answered. 

“To this, the apostle replied, ‘Don’t be surprised then if I sometimes relax my close application and attention of mind a bit and enjoy a little recreation so that I may afterwards apply myself fervently to contemplation.’ It is undoubtedly a defect to be so strict, ill-bred, uncouth and austere as to neither to take any recreation ourselves nor to allow it to others …It is the common prudence that gives due order, time, place and measure to all things.”

Some more wisdom from Saint Francis de Sales that serves body, mind and spirit.  I love it.

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

A Salesian Spirituality of Imperfection

As human beings we are more alike than we are different.  One characteristic we all share is that each of us, at some point in our lives, has made a mistake and, despite our good will and intentions, will probably continue to make them.

Saint Francis de Sales was aware of this.  In fact, he said that the spiritual life itself is comprised largely of mistakes because it is in our mistakes that we realize our own humanity, our own limits, and our need for God.  He writes, “We must never be astonished at finding ourselves imperfect…because there is no cure for it.”  Saint Francis asks us to acknowledge something we’d often rather avoid; namely, that as humans we are not, and will not be, perfect.  Instead, we must ask ourselves how we respond to our mistakes. 

Do we:

  • Take the time to learn from them or dismiss them?

  • Take responsibility when it is our fault or blame others?

  • Do we work to correct it or resort to self-pity?

  • Are we honest and accountable or do we play the victim?

Finally, Saint Francis also reminds us that after every mistake there is one thing we must do: pick ourselves up and continue moving forward as Jesus did when carrying the cross to Calvary.  During that walk Jesus was physically battered, emotionally drained, and going through physical upheaval.  Yet, after each fall, Jesus picked Himself up and continued going forward and persevered until He reached His destination.  How did He do it?  First, Jesus was supported through His prayer, His constant communication with the Father who loved Him and was with Him during His suffering.  Second, Jesus was supported by His friends who met Him on the way like His mother Mary, Mary Magdalene and the Beloved Disciple, John. 

Sometimes we can feel this way too: like we are carrying the weight of the world as we go through our days.  And the tools that Jesus used, prayer and friendship, we ought to use too.  By prayer we share our most intimate needs, desires, hopes, dreams and fears with God.  We ask God to be with us on the way.  And in friendship, we become closer to the people who will walk with us during our successes and our mistakes. 

When it comes to rising from our mistakes, let’s: 

  • Recognize our mistakes (our imperfections)

  • Take responsibility for their consequences

  • Pray & patiently try to change ourselves to avoid making them

  • Tell others what we are doing

  • Persevere in making the needed adjustments as we try and try again

As Saint Francis advises, “Perfection consists in fighting against our imperfections…In this enterprise, we must have courage and patience…in this…we are always victorious provided we are willing to fight.”  In other words, we fail only when we fall and decide to remain down.  We are perfect when we fall and then rise again, trusting in God’s love and mercy, and determined to change and do better.

May God be praised!

Father Michael Newman, OSFS

Pastor

Holy Family Parish, Adrian, MI

Consider the Apodan

Even though I attended St. Francis de Sales High School in the late sixties, it wasn’t until I came under the warm magnetic field of the Oblates in the 1980s that I began to fall in love with the Saint Francis de Sales, the Gentleman Saint. 

I had always loved his famous quote, “There is nothing so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as true strength.”  It had hung in the music room of my grade school, named after another great saint, Saint Vincent de Paul.  But after working with the Oblates, who had blessedly come to Denver, CO for a decade, I could see how deeply true it is that true strength reveals itself in gentleness, forgiveness and, sometimes, laughter so uncontrollable you nearly fall off the table.

Decades later at our fiftieth high school reunion, several of us gathered our favorite quotes of Francis de Sales and read them together at our Mass.  I wasn’t the only one who had come to know and love him in the intervening years.

This past year has brought still more opportunities to know him.  With the Double Salesian Year, commemorating the 400th anniversary of the death of Saint Francis de Sales, and the 450th anniversary of the birth of Saint Jane de Chantal, came Pope Francis’ Apostolic Letter, Totum Amoris Est.  Yes, even the most superficial dive into the life and writings of Saint Francis reveals a Christian for whom EVERYTHING pertains to love.

The section entitled “Wind and Wings,” right in the middle of the letter touched me to my toes.  I’d never heard of an “apodan,” apparently named by Aristotle, but that little short-legged bird owns my heart now.  These little birds, Saint Francis tells us, have such weak and short legs that “it’s as if they did not even have them.”  If they fall to the ground they have to stay there because their little legs don’t give them the traction they need to get a running start to take wing. 

So they’re completely dependent on a gust of wind to pick them up.  Once airborne, they must be ready to flap their wings so that the thrust of wind will continue to propel them higher and higher.  Eventually, they’ll be flying on their own but only because they’ve learned to surrender to being helpless on the ground until the wind finds them and sends them to the skies. 

I’ve given the word “surrender” a lot of thought these past many years.  None of us lives a long (and grateful) life without losing a lot.  One of the more intense losses for me was my generally good health, which tilted precariously in the wrong direction in 2007 when a staph infection tried to kill me.  Within the space of thirty minutes, I went from getting ready to go to lunch with a friend, to screaming my lungs out in the emergency room.

There began my descent into the valley of the shadow of death.  The infection had found its way into my prosthetic hip, which had to be removed, and replaced with a spacer until antibiotics cleared the infection.  Twice during those interminable months, the EMTs arrived at my house to pick me up and take me in the ambulance to the emergency room because the pain was more than I could stand.

Like the little apodan, I was utterly helpless to assist them in lifting me.  I learned to trust that I would be lifted carefully, with absolutely no help from me.  Likewise, in the months of my recovery, my life or death was completely out of my hands.  I was forced to surrender my life to God.

It's surrender that saves us.  Surrender - kenosis - takes an immense amount of grace.  But consider the apodan, says Saint Francis de Sales.  It has the grace to wait for the wind (and we would say Spirit) to lift it up.  It’s in surrender that we learn to Live Jesus.

Kathy McGovern

Kathy McGovern is a well-known scripture teacher in the Denver area. She publishes a weekly scripture column for parish bulletins. Subscribe at www.thestoryandyou.com

She has also authored a new Stations of the Cross book for Twenty-Third Publications, Walking with Jesus on the Way to Calvary: Praying the Stations of the Cross with Perseverance, available here.

Salesian Students Aim High to Make a Difference!

Over the past ten years, Salesianum School, Padua Acadamy (part of the Oblate parish, St. Anthony of Padua) and Ursuline Acadamy in Delaware have partnered annually to coordinate a powerful fundraising event called SALSTHON (Students About Life Saving).  The collaboration is headed by the Student Councils from each school and to date has raised a remarkable $1,400,000 for local non-profit organizations, including The Delaware Center for Homeless Veterans, Child Inc., The B+ Foundation, SL24: Sean's House, St. Patrick’s Center, Limen House, AI DuPont Children’s Hospital and The Summer Collab. 

This year, the students announced that The Ronald McDonald House of Delaware (RMHDE) is the SALSTHON 2023 beneficiary and together have set their sights on an impressive $175,000 fundraising goal. 

To choose the beneficiary for SALSTHON, the Student Councils research and present options focusing on foundations that are in need and where the money raised will be the most impactful.  After interviewing the nonprofits and much consideration, students agree on one foundation.  This year, when speaking with RMHDE and touring the facilities, the students felt a deep connection between the mission of the foundation and Salesian Spirituality.  

Pam Cornforth, President and CEO of RMHDE; Brian Reed, whose family was a beneficiary of RMHDE, and members of Salesianum's Student Council (L-R): Jake Randall '23, William "Deuce" Mutts '23; Colin McGhee '23, Nate Gambol '23 and Jack Gormley '23.

As SALSTHON faculty liaison Ms. Alison Hildenbrand said, “The joy and optimism that emanates from RMHDE has a real connection to Salesian Spirituality and the teaching of Saint Francis de Sales.  The foundation is dedicated to creating a place that is happy and optimistic for families who are going through difficult times.” 

If this year’s fundraising goal is met, RMHDE will be able to fill its financial need to be able to continue to provide meals for families staying with them.  If students are able to surpass the goal, those funds will go towards updating the accommodations and furnishings at the housing facilities. 

Salesianum’s Student Council President Jack Gormley ‘23 is passionate and enthusiastic about this year's effort.  He said, “It is through efforts like this that we as students are able to highlight how Saint Francis’ teaching lives inside of us every day and in all that we do.  We are really able to show that we live these teachings when we can put them into action in the real world and do something really special to help others.  Through this effort we show our true selves, being who we are and being that well.  We don’t shy away from obstacles, even though it is not easy. We are here to work on something really special and continue to live out Salesian Spirituality in our communities.”  He went on to express how he and his fellow council members hope that this can be the start of a partnership with RMHDE and Salesianum as they have already identified ways that students can volunteer at the foundation and have brainstormed other fundraising options for the future. 

From now until March 18th, students from all three Salesian schools are joining forces to raise funds through various outlets, including direct donation solicitations, sponsoring “dress down” days, social events and athletic tournaments.  Finally, on the evening of March 18, the fundraising efforts culminate at the spirited SALSTHON overnight dance held at Salesianum where the highly anticipated reveal of the official total dollars raised occurs.

To learn more about SALSTHON here.

Live + Jesus! 




St. Paul VI Catholic High School Celebrates its 40th Anniversary

 
 

This year, Oblate-affiliated St. Paul VI Catholic High School is celebrating 40 years of growing in grace and wisdom!  The school community celebrated with an Anniversary Mass on Sunday, January 29 in their theatre, Teatro Montini.  The Mass was concelebrated by current Chaplain Father Stephen Schultz, founding principal Father Donald J. Heet, OSFS, and former principal, Father Robert Mulligan, OSFS, with over 400 people in attendance.  It was so special to have so many past, present (and future) Panthers, faculty and staff celebrating together. 

Father Donald J. Heet, OSFS, (front) Chaplain Father Stephen Schultz, (back) and Father Robert Mulligan, OSFS, (right).

St. Paul VI High School was established in 1983 by former Arlington Bishop Thomas J. Welsh and the Oblates administered and staffed the school until 2000. Other Oblates who served at the school include Father Joe Brennan, Brother Bob Carter, and Fathers Michael Cavanaugh, Bill Dougherty, Ed Fitzpatrick, Frank Hanlon, Matt Hillyard, John Lyle, Robert Mancini, John McGee, Ed Ogden and John O'Neill.

The mission of St. Paul VI Catholic High School is to provide an excellent Catholic education to young men and women by affording them the means to achieve spiritual, intellectual, personal, social, and physical development according to the teachings of the Gospel and Saint Francis de Sales. St. Paul VI Catholic High School is committed to graduating responsible, moral, service-oriented young adults who will continue to “grow in grace and wisdom."

A full gallery of photos from the day are available here and the Mass can be viewed on the PVI YouTube Channel

Father John W. Crossin, OSFS, Explores the Ecumenical Future

While praying on a retreat at Trappist Monastery (Holy Cross Abbey) in Winchester, Virginia, Father John W. Crossin, OSFS, felt a strong calling.  A theologian and author, he has two decades of expertise and knowledge in the areas of ecumenism but on retreat, he felt compelled to explore ecumenical ethics further. 

Father Crossin recalls his self-reflection during the retreat, “We (different Christian groups) will always differ on issues of personal morality and we haven’t dialogued on this as we have on other topics, so why not rely on the Holy Spirit?”

Thus, Moving into the Ecumenical Future: Foundations of a Paradigm of Christian Ethics was born.  This book provides a common framework in approaching moral issues.  Father Crossin reminds us that the Pope invites tension and disagreement so we can come to a common understanding.  In the book, Father Crossin reflects on the moral debates and issues between Christians and invites readers to prayer and dialogue on these.  

Structured around ten fundamental pillars, Father Crossin explores foundational influences and how they contribute to the understanding of Christian ethics. The text begins with the Holy Spirit as Father Crossin believes all Christian traditions should rely on the guidance of the Holy Spirit.  Subsequent chapters consider pastoral input, the teaching and example of Jesus, biblical teachings, and our relationships with God and one another in developing paradigms for ecumenical ethics. 

There are echoes of Salesian Spirituality throughout the entire book.  Father Crossin explains that he considers Saint Francis de Sales’ lessons appropriate for dialogue on ecumenical ethics, specifically, his encouragement to be gentle, to be in dialogue and that the will is more important than the intellect. There is also a section dedicated to Salesian Spirituality.  This is the focus because, Crossin explains, spirituality is a foundation of morality. It provides an area of discussion where one can meet another with differing views with respect and grounds for convincing.  The book seeks reconciliation between Protestants and Catholics, and Salesian Spirituality, through its gentleness, practicality, and humility, can lead to the coming together of two opposing sides.  When Saint Francis de Sales dealt with those who held different positions he treated them (and everyone) all in the image of God.  Father Crossin encourages our discussions on Christian ethics to follow this model of being gentle and charitable to those with which we may disagree.  

Father Crossin, OSFS, entered the Oblates in 1965 and has served in ecumenical work for over 20 years.  He is the former Executive Director of the Secretariat for Ecumenical and Interreligious Affairs at the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops and holds a Ph.D. in Moral Theology from The Catholic University of America.  His publications include books related to virtue ethics and numerous articles on Salesian Spirituality.  He also served as Director of the Washington Theological Consortium, Director of the Spiritual Formation program at Saint Luke Institute, and President of De Sales School of Theology.  Father Crossin has worked with other religions and Christians spending five years on the road traveling to conferences.  

Father John W. Crossin, OSFS

Father John W. Crossin, OSFS

He sees this book as an extension of his two decades of work in ecumenism. He recognizes that achieving full agreement on Christian ethics will probably never occur but he hopes his book makes a contribution and says, “Who knows what the Holy Spirit will do if we prayerfully consider all this?” 

He says he considers this publication a starting place for ecumenical studies and a foundation for discussion for international dialogue to dive deeper in ecumenical studies.  “I hope in reading this book others will see some light and it will help bring us together, which is Jesus’ will at the Last Supper; that we be one.”  

Father Crossin said he wants “to help build relations between opposing sides by providing biblical and pastoral models to ecumenical studies as well as Salesian views on this topic.”  A review by Kathryn Johnson, former Director for Ecumenical Relations for the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America suggests he achieved this. She said, "This is a book of hope and summons. Where many despair that differences on moral teaching must inhibit ecumenical growth, John Crossin musters multidisciplinary hosts of resources to root dialogical openness at the heart of mature Christian life. Then, as a moral theologian, he proposes steps forward on the way toward unifying (while appropriately diverse) witness on the unavoidable matters of how to live--all with humility, love, and trust in the Spirit of God.”

To purchase the book click on: Moving into the Ecumenical Future: Foundations of a Paradigm of Christian Ethics 




Sacred Heart Valentine

As we approach the middle of February, we don’t have to look too far to see images of Valentine’s Day in homes, shops and supermarkets.  Candy, cupids and flowers are also on display, but it is the heart that has become the primary symbol of romance and love.  Many histories of Valentine’s Day propose that the stylized image of a human heart became so popular because it appeals to our senses.  Most of us understand the importance of the heart for our health and well-being and this has been translated into seeing love as central to our life.  

In Catholic culture, the Sacred Heart of Jesus has become an icon of God’s love and mercy.  It is a centuries-old tradition that focuses on Christ’s physical heart as a symbol of His love for humanity.  The devotion has roots in the Middle Ages but it was in the late 17th century that Jesus appeared to Saint Margaret Mary Alacoque, a Visitation nun in France.  The Salesian tradition has always emphasized the love of God and the significance of speaking to one another “heart to heart.”   So, it was fitting that Christ chose to communicate His love for all humanity to a spiritual daughter of Saint Francis de Sales and Saint Jane de Chantal.  

In many ways, this devotion may have become popular for the same reasons the heart symbol gained prominence among romantics.  The Sacred Heart is a very tangible reminder of the love and mercy God has for His children.  

The Church encourages us to remember the Heart of Jesus throughout the year.   On the first Friday of each month, special prayers, litanies and holy hours are offered as Catholics recall the love of Jesus.  The actual feast of the Sacred Heart is celebrated each year a few weeks after Easter and Pentecost. 

In popular culture, the month of February is filled with heart shapes, love songs and romantic cards and decorations.   As we walk down the aisles of our drugstores and supermarkets, maybe we can walk with Saint Valentine.  As a Christian bishop, he often preached the words of Jesus, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble of heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11:29).   

My hope is that the Heart of Jesus will inspire us all year round.   Like Saint Margaret Mary, my prayer is that the Kingdom of Christ will be established in our own hearts.  And may we be able to say, along with the disciples walking to Emmaus, “Were not our hearts burning within us when he talked to us on the road and opened the Scriptures to us?” (Luke 24:32). 


Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Direction of Intention

The Direction of Intention. This simple prayer is, for those in the Salesian family, a most powerful prayer for advancing in holiness. In this prayer we essentially do three things.  We OFFER our action to God.   We ASK for His grace and we ACCEPT whatever good or difficulty may come our way in a way that is pleasing to God.  In so doing, we change the secular to sacred and the ordinary becomes extraordinary.  In a sense, each action becomes a sacrament for in it we encounter Christ. 

Our founder, Blessed Father Louis Brisson, OSFS, exhorted us to never forget the practice of this Direction of Intention.  He urged us to make a new one with each new and successive action for we may need a different grace than the one required previously.  I used to tell students that if the previous class did not go well, the next one is a new opportunity, a new beginning, a new Direction of Intention.  At the same time, I mentioned that is was not magical.  They couldn’t pray this prayer before a chemistry test they had not prepared for thinking they would do very well.  Yet, on the other hand, they could accept the difficulty from not studying and resolve to do better.  I begged them to pray this before all activities: a student council session, a play rehearsal, an audition, a sporting activity, at the beginning of the day and at its conclusion. 

One of my favorite memories of this prayer was when 1100 male voices would pray it in a gym before a pep rally against our rival.  Prayer recited, then they would cheer “Beat St. Mark’s” (or maybe it was kill?)!  You get the idea.  A brother of a parishioner asked if we were going to recite it prior to leaving the sacristy for his brother’s wedding.  To this day, when I celebrate a former student’s wedding, we gather all the alumni together just prior to the wedding to recite the Direction of Intention.  They all smile and proudly recite something that became second nature, instinctual.  A graduate told me that at boot camp when his military academy was trying to emasculate him, get him to quit, he would pray the Direction of Intention as if to say “Bring it on; I’m ready.” 

Another alum, years after being graduated, recalled that his first child was born with every malady and dressed with so many tubes on his body it would be very difficult to visit him.  When he approached the gates of the hospital, he prayed the Direction of Intention and things went well.  It put him in the Presence of God in the Present Moment (two more key concepts of Salesian Spirituality).  Many are those who tell me that they continue to pray it as it is so helpful.  To those who have heard about this prayer, they keep a copy of it in their office, on the mirror or wherever needed.

Whether it is doing the dishes, cutting the lawn, meeting with a less-than-pleasant client, sitting down to study, we dedicate the action to God.  We GIVE it to God, ASK for God’s grace (“my grace is sufficient for you”) and ACCEPT everything as coming from God’s providential hands.

Not only did Father Brisson ask us never to forget this, but he begged us to teach this powerful means of sanctification to all those we serve.  Anecdotally, the more I am faithful to this devotion, the better things progress.  When I forget, difficulty has a chance of entering the picture accompanied by such vices as pride or anxiety.   We do so many things over and over again (getting dressed, driving to work, getting vested to preside at Mass) that they can become routine, mindless and perhaps with little meaning.  When beginning with the Direction of Intention, we can make the profane incredibly holy.  

Father John Fisher, OSFS

Pastor

Our Mother of Consolation Parish, Philadelphia, PA

A Saint for Our Times

This past week, on January 24, the entire Salesian family, including the Oblates, celebrated the Feast of Saint Francis de Sales.  As our patron, all Oblates revere his goodness, faith and insights into the human heart, intelligence, the prolific body of written material on the devout life and his selflessness in caring for the spiritual journey of thousands and thousands of people.  

One of the traps of honoring any saint, though, is that we may find it easier to admire them than to imitate them.  Their lives and circumstances seem so removed from our own that we quickly distance ourselves from them.  Simone Weil,  a French philosopher, thoughtfully wrote, "It is not enough to merely have saints; we must have saints for our times."

While I agree with Simone Weil's insight, I believe Saint Francis de Sales IS a saint for our times, even though he died over 400 years ago.  One example of his relevance is a sobriquet attached to Saint Francis de Sales in the title, the Gentleman Saint.  It does not come from his position in society as a nobleman but his profound belief in the power of Christ's words in the gospel, "Learn from me, for I am gentle and humble of heart."  Our patron believed the gentleness of Christ was the way not only for social interchange but also the way to confront conflict, violence and evil. 

Throughout his life, Saint Francis de Sales was immersed in a Catholic community grappling with the Protestant Reformation and the violent religious wars that resulted.  He was attracted to a group named the Acarie Circle, a Catholic group who desired to rekindle devotion to the Catholic faith in France.  Some members of the Acarie Circle proposed a militant vision that sanctioned the use of force and violence to accomplish this goal.  Saint Francis de Sales, while cordial and respectful of the Acarie Circle, was not attracted to this method.  Instead of a vision of coercion and force, he embraced the gentleness of Christ as the way to lead others to devotion and a relationship with God. 

In this belief, he developed a theology of non-violence seen in the first sermon he gave at his induction as Provost of the Cathedral Chapter in the Diocese of Geneva. Saint Francis de Sales  wrote, “It will be by charity that the walls of Geneva must be shaken; by charity that the city must be invaded and by charity that it must be recovered.  I propose to you neither iron nor powder whose odor and taste call to mind the infernal furnace.  I am not forming one of those armies who soldiers have neither faith nor piety.  May our camp be the camp of God whose trumpets proclaim with accents all of gentleness, this song, “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God of armies.  It is on this camp that you must fix your gaze...we will conquer only with prayer and love."

Violence is an overwhelming presence in our lives.  It impacts almost every facet of  our world and society, graphically illustrated by the horrific fact that in the first 24 days of 2023, there have been over 40 mass shootings in the United States.  Indeed, fear dominates as a response to this reality, and often, fear itself leads to violence.

The words of Christ that prompted Saint Francis de Sales to choose gentleness over violence must be rooted in every heart of faith.  As we cope with our world's disdain for peace, let us pray for peace and embrace a gentle heart and a gentle way to confront sin and violence in the spirit of Christ and the example of Saint Francis de Sales. 

Father Jack Loughran, OSFS

Provincial

Toledo-Detroit Province

Be the Light of Christ

Today is World Day for Consecrated Life, and US parishes will mark it this weekend. Begun in 1997 by Pope John Paul II, the commemoration is intended “to help the entire Church to esteem ever more greatly the witness of those persons who has chosen to follow Christ by means of the evangelical counsels” - poverty, chastity, obedience - and “to be a suitable occasion for consecrated persons to renew their commitment and rekindle the fervor which should inspire their offering of themselves to the Lord” (John Paul, 1997).

The pope selected the Feast of the Presentation of the Lord for this event. This feast is known as Candlemas Day, when the church blesses all of the candles to be used in the year in parishes, homes, and places of worship. All disciples, by virtue of our baptism, are called to be the light of Christ. Our tradition teaches us that vowed religious life is an intensification of the baptismal call to live Jesus.

As the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales profess these vows, we look forward to this day which coincides with the anniversary of the death of our founder, Blessed Louis Brisson, OSFS. His exhortation that we “reprint the Gospel” with our lives is an appropriate reminder for all of us, whether in religious, married, or the single life. Just as a small candle is lighted from the large paschal candle at every baptism, our lives are meant to be a flame of faith, hope and love to join with all the flames flickering throughout the world to set it ablaze with the love, peace and joy of Jesus.

Yes, this weekend we will have an opportunity to pray for those sisters, brothers and priests whose poverty, chastity and obedience inspired, taught, or animated us to be stronger and more faith-filled disciples. We also pray that each of us cooperates with the grace to deepen our commitment and renew the fervor of our own baptism for a world in great need of our light, which is the light of Christ.

Prayer for Consecrated Life

O God, throughout the ages you have called women and men to pursue lives of perfect charity through the evangelical counsels of poverty, chastity, and obedience. We give you thanks for these courageous witnesses of Faith and models of inspiration. Their pursuit of holy lives teaches us to make a more perfect offering of ourselves to you. Continue to enrich your Church by calling forth sons and daughters who, having found the pearl of great price, treasure the Kingdom of Heaven above all things. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, God, for ever and ever.

Amen.

Father Michael Murray, OSFS

Provincial Councilor, Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Parochial Vicar, St. John Neumann Parish, Reston, VA

Feast Day Celebrations

Francis & Me: Kathy Wickham

Kathy Wickham: Parishioner of Holy Family Parish, Adrian., MI

Kathy Wickham

“Let us think only of living today well, and when tomorrow comes, it also will be today and we can think about it then.  In all this, we must trust and be resigned to God’s providence.” - Saint Francis de Sales

I often struggle to live in the present.  My neat little plan for today can easily launch me into tomorrow.  A request for a favor, assistance or a listening ear sends me in an unplanned direction.  If I’m honest, reliance on my will for how the day should go often brings little worries and anxieties.  The writings of Saint Francis de Sales teach us God cares about what’s happening right now.  

My Pastor and Spiritual Director occasionally reminds me of the importance of discerning what is mine to do today.  Remembering his words, prayerful thought awakens the realization of Divine presence. In that moment of deeper thought I’m reminded that I am not God and collaboration with Him inspires my best efforts.   My “yes” to His Will resigns me to a path of humble service to do what I can in the circumstances before me.  Frustration becomes gratitude when the weeds of self-reliance are exposed and I adjust my expectations as God rearranges my day.  In his gentle way, Saint Francis de Sales teaches me the importance of cultivating virtue, to persevere and patiently, calmly start again when I fall short. 

Time is limited, and precious and sometimes not generously shared.  In a recently viewed reflection, the speaker said, “Mother Teresa of Calcutta says our giving is holy when it hurts a little.”  God’s timing may not be convenient but it is always purposeful and perfect. When I choose to keep an open heart and mind to live intentionally, I become an instrument in His plan and holy moments play out.  The gentle or not-so-gentle nudge of the unexpected direction the day takes offers many graced gifts along the way.  I’m learning there is no day void of such gifts when lessons in Salesian Spirituality help guide the journey.   

Heavenly Father, thank you for being with me in whatever this day may hold.  Guide my heart, mind, words and hands with everyone in my path and all that I do.  

May God Be Praised


How to Live Jesus!

Artwork by Brother Mickey McGrath, OSFS

Artwork by Brother Mickey McGrath, OSFS

I write this reflection from Baton Rouge, LA where I am preaching a Parish Mission at St. George Parish.  The parish Music Director, Joseph Smaldino, worked with the parish Director of Adult Faith Formation, Karen Fawley, Pastor Father Paul Yi and the Parish Staff to develop the Mission Theme.  We are reflecting on Making Ordinary Time Extraordinary by Living Jesus.  It is always a great gift to discover how many people have been touched by Salesian Spirituality.  I even met a couple, the Daigles, who belonged to Our Lady of Good Counsel, an Oblate parish in Vienna, VA, before moving to Baton Rouge.

Saint Francis de Sales said, “Many are satisfied with carrying the Lord on their tongue, recounting His marvels and praising Him with great ardor; others carry Him in their hearts with tender and loving affection, which becomes part and parcel of their lives, thinking of Him and speaking to Him. But these two ways of carrying the Lord do not amount to much if the third element of carrying Him in their arms by good works is missing.” (Sermons 2; O. IX, p. 22)  As much as we might love the Lord or speak about Jesus, it is by good works, carrying the Lord in our arms, that He is known. It is by Living Jesus that He is known and seen.  I like to put it this way: Love is known when it is shown.  Jesus is known when He is shown by our words, deeds and attitudes.

My mother’s version of this was, “Don’t tell me you love me. Clean the toilet. Do the dishes. Give me flowers that you pick from our garden or buy from the store. Tell me you’re sorry and show me that you mean it.”  In other words, show me that you love me.  I believe that is the message that de Sales conveys by telling us that we must carry the Lord in our arms by good works.  Mother Frances de Sales de Chappuis, the Good Mother, said it this way, “Imprint the Gospel in your flesh and blood.”  So I ask, “Do we? Do I?”

I see it in little and big ways.  A wife walks by the side of her husband who uses a walker, ready to assist him if necessary but supporting his independence as much as possible.  A couple holds hands while sitting together or walking down the street.  On the day of my writing this reflection, a man fell before our session and people immediately got up to see if he was alright and to offer a hand to help him stand up.  People volunteer to assist others in need, like one of our confreres who has gone to Florida twice to help with hurricane relief.  Students go on mission trips during their breaks, like the students I would take to Appalachia when I was a University Chaplain,  the students from Salesianum who recently served in Central America, or the people who volunteer at De Sales Service Works in Camden, NJ. Love is shown when people stop to visit with or eat with one of our sisters and brothers who are homeless.  People bring meals to assist a family in need, drive others to appointments or offer to sit with a spouse suffering from dementia or on hospice so that the caregiver can have some relief.  Where do you see someone carrying the Lord in their hands?  Where do you help Jesus be known because He is shown in your good works?

A number of years ago I worked with a man whose daughter went to Bishop Ireton High School, a high school in Alexandria, VA that was administrated by the Oblates for many years.  He and his wife went to a Live Jesus! event.  While they were registering, they heard a woman behind them read one of the banners.  Instead of “Live Jesus” she read “Jesus, Live!”  She saw that sign and proclaimed that the day would be better than she had thought it would be.  She was going to see Jesus alive that day.  Well, after we laughed, our conversation reflected on the fact that when we carry the Lord in our arms by our actions, our words of support, our prayers, an email or a phone call and….you fill in the blank, we live Jesus in ways that help Him to come alive.  Our Salesian Spirituality makes a real and practical difference in people’s lives. 

I find this both comforting and challenging.  The comfort comes from the fact that Jesus is as near as our hearts, our minds and our very bodies.  The challenge comes from the fact that living Jesus, carrying Him in my arms by doing good works, stretches me to look and see where those works are needed and then to actually do them.  And so I ask myself:

  •  “How can I carry Jesus in my arms by good works?” 

  •  “Where do I see Jesus?”  

  • “Where can I live Jesus so that He is seen by others?” 

When we do these things, the ordinary becomes extraordinary because the One whose name is engraved on our hearts, Jesus, is made visible for others to know and see Him.  Live Jesus and make Him alive in our midst so that His love can be known by being shown.  May God be praised!

Father Paul Colloton, OSFS

Superior, De Sales Centre Oblate Residence

Childs, MD

The Bond of Cousins

Father Jack celebrating the Fouth of July with his cousins ( July 4, 2022).

This week the universal Church celebrated the feast of Saint Francis de Sales.  Next week (January 31), we will remember Saint John Bosco.  He was so influenced by the teachings and philosophy of the Gentleman Saint, that when he founded a religious order, he named it the Society of St. Francis de Sales (popularly known as the “Salesians” of Don Bosco).   

Cousins celebrating Easter in 1972.  Father Jack is the little guy in the suit jacket!

Because we share a common patron and were founded around the same time, the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales and the Salesians are often confused.  While there are some similarities and connections, we each have our own charism and mission. Using a metaphor we are all familiar with, I tell people that our two religious communities are like “spiritual cousins.”  

I grew up in a large Polish and Irish family with lots and lots of cousins.  I still see many of them on a regular basis and I consider them not only family, but friends. Many memes and social media posts remind us of the importance of our extended family.  One image reads, “Cousins are like the stars – you can’t always seem them, but you know they are always there.”  Another quote reminds us that, “cousins are a little bit of childhood that can never be lost.”  But my favorite poem states, “side by side or miles apart, cousins will always be connected by the heart.”

I like this saying most because Salesian Spirituality is all about the heart.   When we invite Jesus into our lives, he begins to live in our hearts and in our actions.  Our devotion to the Lord and our faithful friendship with others help us to put the Gospel into practice.  In all of our relationships, we can connect as sisters, as brothers, as cousins.   We can see in all people a common humanity and dignity that helps us to love God by loving one another.     

The many religious orders that follow the spirit of Saint Francis are all focused on his call to live like Jesus (Vive Jesu).  Like cousins who are related but also unique, each group will emphasize a different aspect of the life, example and teaching of the gentle bishop of Geneva.  Each community will point to a particular virtue or message of our spiritual father. 

All of the followers of Saint Francis – lay, religious and clergy – are connected by the heart.  All of us respond, in our own heart, to the call to holiness.  Each, in our own vocation, try to live the devout life.  Like any family, we are not always successful.  We may argue and struggle and sometimes not get along, but we recognize our common bond.  Saint Francis told us “we have no bond but the bond of love.”  May all of our bonds – those of family and friends – sustain and strengthen us in our journey through life.

Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

Spreading Our Wings and Taking Flight: Lives of Surrender and Love

As you have probably noticed lately, we have been making a big to-do about the release of an Apostolic Letter, Totum Amoris Est, issued by Pope Francis on the 400th anniversary of the death of Saint Francis de Sales.  At this point, you might be asking yourself: “Why are the Oblates so excited?  Why are they making such a big deal about this?”  I will provide you with an honest answer.  While Francis de Sales is a highly quoted, beloved and a brilliant, yet relatable Doctor of the Church, he doesn’t get the same kind of attention some of the other giants do, saints like Augustine, Thomas Aquinas and Francis of Assisi.  Honestly, we are okay with that.  Those are all great saints, ones that Francis de Sales himself happened to love but when our saint gets his moment, we seize it.  

We seize it because of our mission to share this spirituality and this moment provides us with a special opportunity to do just that.  We share that spirituality because it has changed the world, the Church and each of us Oblates.  It has made us much more keenly aware of the Love of God.  It has given us a simple, yet clear path to say “yes” to Him.  It’s something that we want to share because we want you to experience the presence of God in your life.  Francis de Sales is not the reason that God’s love is accessible.  He has shown us in “his method” how accessible God’s love has always been.  As Pope Francis wrote: “It was a method that renounced all harshness and respected completely the dignity and gifts of the devout soul.”

The devout soul has its own personal relationship with God, one that calls for our “yes.”  As the Holy Father reflects on the teaching of Francis de Sales, he writes: “It is up to us to take flight or to remain on the ground.  Even as he bestows his grace, God would not have us rise without our consent.”  So as Francis tells us in the Treatise on the Love of God, we have a choice to follow the lead of God’s inspirations or to reject them.  In the words of Pope Francis: “Each person is responsible for cooperating with his or her own fulfillment, with spreading his or her wings with confident trust before the gust of God’s wind.”   

To spread our wings with confident trust means that we know that God’s wind will lift us, that we will soar.  Sometimes we have a hard time trusting that this will happen.  We grow in that trust, we live in that trust with what Francis de Sales calls devotion.  The Pope tells us that devotion from a Salesian perspective is something very real and practical, “…a style of life, a way of living immersed in our concrete daily existence” that “embraces and discovers meaning in the little things.”  

Why do the little things matter?  Sometimes we might be tempted to say that even if they did in the past, the world is too askew now for any change to come from them.  We are tempted to give up, to think that our little actions in no way matter.

Pope Francis reminds us why they do.  He does it by highlighting how much the world changed in the time of Saint Francis de Sales.  As a young man, de Sales went to Paris and found a place and a people devastated by the Wars of Religion.  When he returned many years later, he found as the Pope calls it “[a] whole world athirst for God.”  “…[H]e sensed an authentic ‘epochal shift’ that demanded a response.”  What is fascinating is that the dear saint had an epochal shift himself, from interior spiritual torment in his youth to interior peace.  He encountered Jesus Christ which led him to proclaim in the Treatise that “Nothing sways the heart as much as love.”

Thus, why Francis de Sales can speak to us…He does so with authenticity.  He found his peace through what Pope Francis calls a “steady cultivation of lived experience.”  He did this in the same way the saint encourages us to do even now, to cultivate an interior life, an interior peace that “does not separate us from the world but teaches us how to live in it and appreciate it.”  

As Francis de Sales came to know and love God in a powerful way, he surrendered to the Lord.  He spread his wings, and the wind of God sent him soaring.  That love, that peace that he sought so desperately as a young man, he found in his daily encounters with the Lord, in quiet prayer, in little actions, in friendship and in charity.  Pope Francis emphasizes a fundamental Salesian teaching: devotion and charity cannot be separated.  Francis de Sales showed how making loving God his way of life led to his love of others.  “Today he bids us set aside undue concern for ourselves, for our structures and what society thinks about us, and consider instead the real spiritual needs and expectations of our people.”

If we embrace and discover meaning in the little things, we will realize how they make a major difference.  Our dear saint learned that in his own life.  He spread his wings with a confident trust and God lifted him to soar.  We can do the same and the amazing thing, the almost unbelievable thing, is that the accumulation of little acts of devotion and charity transform the world.  We have spent our lives seeking to pass that simple message on to you.  Now, we are hoping that through the authenticity of your own life, you might continue to pass this on as well.  Just remember, though, it will come in the way you authentically witness, how in the simple, daily ways you show the epochal shift, how the soaring comes in spreading your wings every day and allowing God’s wind to take you where you need to be and to the people you are called to encounter.

The Light Continues

The liturgical season of Christmas wrapped up this past Monday with the feast of the Baptism of the Lord.  This feast should remind us of our own baptism.  The light that came into the world at Christmas is the same light that fills our souls when we are brought into the Church.  This light continues to brighten as each of us grow in our communion with God throughout our lives. 

The Gospel proclaimed on Christmas day was the Prologue of Saint John (Jn 1:1-5) where the Evangelist tells us that “the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”

Throughout the weeks of Christmas, I have meditated on this image.  Reflecting on light has been important for me this year since it was a holiday filled with a lot of sadness, death and funerals.   

My Oblate brother and friend, Reverend Joseph Jocco, died on the morning of December 24.   My brother-in-law’s mother (Geri Peek) passed away on December 26.  Colleen Dougherty, the mother of a former student and colleague (Shane Dougherty) lost her battle with cancer on December 31.  On the feast of the Lord’s Baptism, a friend and mentor (Sister Jeanette Lawlor, CSFN) died after a brief illness.  It seemed that from the very first hours of the feast to the very last celebrations of the season, death and darkness were prevailing. 

The challenge this Christmas was to see God in these moments and in these sad situations... even in the clouds, amidst the confusion and among the questions we all have about life, death and our time on Earth.

I know I am not the only one experiencing loss and sorrow during the “most wonderful time of the year.”  Many people experience loneliness, depression and loss during the holidays.  When we are confronted with the shadows and darkness of life, the lights of Christmas can sometimes be a reminder of our emptiness rather than a renewal of our spirit.   

The good news for Christians is that we recognize God is at work in the world - in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, in sunshine and clouds.  In all seasons and circumstances, God is with us, Emmanuel.

At Christmas, God gave us the greatest gift, His Son.  We believe the Savior was born and lived so that we could continue to live.  The modern calypso carol “Mary’s Boychild, Jesus Christ” beautifully announces to us, “Hark, now, hear the angels sing, a new king’s born today... and man will live forevermore because of Christmas Day!”  

Through His Son, God gave us the assurance that as hard as it is, as difficult as it may make life, death will not have the final word.

The Word was made flesh and still dwells among us – in our family and friends, in the love we share and in the spirit of those we have lost. 

So even though the Church concluded the season of the Incarnation this past week (even though the decorations and music have mostly disappeared), the Word will continue, the light will keep shining and Christ will keep being born into our lives – because of Christmas Day!

Reverend Jack Kolodziej, OSFS

Provincial

Wilmington-Philadelphia Province

You Are Not the Center of Anything, Except...

Father Bob Bazzoli, OSFS, and I were ordained together on June 4th some 34 years ago. His parents and my mom (my dad died too early) would often go out to dinner on Saturday nights when Bob was at St. Joachim Parish and I at Salesianum School. One Saturday, his sisters were interlopers and joined us for dinner on June 4th.

Naturally, I thought we were celebrating the anniversary. When I realized we were celebrating his mom’s birthday, I explained my surprise (I never remembered her birthday) to which one of his sisters exclaimed (jokingly, I hope), “It’s not always about you, John.” Honest mistake.

There are times when we want things to be about us, our way, our idea, and our plan. We feign openness to another’s idea, but we really want them to affirm us, perhaps “pat us on the back.” We may not own up to this, as we perceive others constantly seeking attention, wanting to be the queen of the universe, the king of the world. At times, we may think we are the center of everything.

While driving a few Sundays ago, I was listening to a lecture (I’m a geek) on Richard Rohr’s idea of our first half of life (building a name, career, credentials) and the second half of life (soul-centered not ego-centered). I cannot remember the exact context, but it probably had to do with stop reaching for this award or that accolade. He simply proclaimed, “You’re not the center of anything, except the heart of God.”

We, you, I are at the CENTER of God’s heart. In that pulsating, life-giving heart of God, we can be found. We marvel at God’s creative action in all the wonders God created, none greater than the human person who possesses God’s very likeness and image. Of all the beauty in this world, the only thing God wants back is us! We come from God and spend our lives returning to God.

We are the CENTER of God’s heart. From this cherished position, God invites us daily into relationship. We are always in the presence of God. We may leave God’s presence for this want or some fleeting, selfish desire, but God remains waiting, smiling, and loving us. Saint Augustine spoke of this tiny “God-shaped hole,” a place inside our hearts that only God can fill. In another place he wrote, “You have made us for yourself and our hearts are restless until they rest in you, O Lord.” To realize that “the one who nothing greater can be imagined,” as Saint Anselm proclaimed, has us as the CENTER of his heart is absolutely incredible. Stay with this for some time. If we resonate with this, humbly accept this gift, live our life from this acknowledgment, I would think our desire to be the center of anything else is meaningless or at least pales in comparison. It leads us to a “letting go” of what we thought mattered to a “falling into” the LOVER known as God who keeps us at the CENTER of His heart. It allows us to see that everyone else enjoys this gift. Then, we can appreciate the dignity of others, all others, no one excluded. But God loving us and we loving God is not enough. Saint Francis de Sales explains that the true nature of love is to be ecstatic, to go outside the two lovers, to a third thing which is each other.

We are the CENTER of God’s heart. Own this and let it empower you to embrace the other as God’s center, too. Let go of the differences that too often alienate, judge, demonize, assure us of being right and just loved. God’s love is infinite and always available. Saint Catherine of Siena had it correct, God is pazzo d’amore, crazy in love with us. To borrow from Prince, “Let’s go crazy, too.” For when we love, we are God-like for GOD IS LOVE.

Father John Fisher, OSFS

Pastor, Our Mother of Consolation Parish

Philadelphia, PA

Is This Who We've Waited For?

“Follow the star to a place unexpected

Would you believe, after all we've projected

A child in a manger?

Lowly and small, the weakest of all

Unlikeliest hero, wrapped in his mother's shawl

Just a child

Is this who we've waited for?”

These are the opening words of the song “How Many Kings,” written by Jason Germain and Marc Martel of the Christian Rock group known as Downhere.  The song presents the discovery of the infant Jesus as a surprising revelation.  Where is the king?  Where is the mighty warrior?  What am I doing here and why did I make the effort to find Him if this is all there is?  But this is precisely the point; there is more to come, a lot more.  The light of the star only opened the mind of the Magi; it is up to them to open their eyes and see with faith the wonder of God in their midst.

The light of the Star of Bethlehem is symbolic of God’s inspiration that awakens our minds and enlivens our hearts.  In Book 2, chapter 9 of the Treatise on the Love of God, Saint Francis de Sales writes, “Inspiration comes down from heaven like an angel.  It strikes straightway on the poor sinner’s heart and arouses him so that he is lifted up out of his iniquity.”  God always makes the first move, inviting us to find and love Him.  We sense it as “stirrings” within us, writes DeSales.  It doesn’t come with the exigency of a trumpet blast, but simply and gently as a newborn reaching for us, stimulating a flutter in our stomachs and smiles on our faces.

Is this what we have waited for?  A small baby and gentle stirrings?  Not only would Saint Francis de Sales answer in the affirmative, but I also think he would say that it is essential because it allows for a voluntary reception of God’s grace.  Grace will never overwhelm or coerce us.  If we are to love God, we must remain free to choose to accept or reject His inspiration to love and to place our faith in His son born lowly and small.

Is this who we have waited for?  The only way to get a personally convincing answer to this question is to respond to the “stirrings” that God’s inspiration implants within us.  When the Magi returned home, did they leave God’s inspiration behind?  Did their brief encounter open their eyes of faith so they could see that they had to continue to follow the star, the inspiration of God, for the rest of their lives?  What about us?  God’s stirrings are within us, right now, in fact.  Those stirrings lead us to God’s son.  It is up to us to open our eyes in faith and see the one we have waited for is indeed in our midst!

Father Robert Rutledge, OSFS

Holy Infant Catholic Church

Durham, NC